Soul’s Day Game Book Is Here
Soul’s Day Game Book Is Here
Soul finally finished his Day Game book and it launched today! He worked on this book probably longer than I worked on my phone and text game book. I was lucky enough to take an early look at this book and it is flat amazing.
I love learning from people who are masters in a very specific area. The more general the mentors knowledge, the more watered down it is. Soul, focuses completely on Day Game and it is his true passion.
You can tell from page one you are drinking from the cup of a master of this skill. This book will shave literally years off of your learning curve.
If you would like to purchase his book, pick it up here: Daytime Dating Book
5 Reasons to Learn Day Game
1. Less Flakes:
Meeting women in a night club or bar is a blast and one of the fastest ways to get good with women due to the raw exposure and pure volume of women you can interact with. However, if you go out a lot than you know the limitations of night clubs. First, the women are often drinking which makes them less likely to remember the interaction and even less likely to properly invest so the two of you can get to know each other.
In day game it is unlikely that you will run into to many drunk girls unless you are approaching homeless women. As a result, the woman will undoubtedly remember the interaction and is much less likely to fake.
2. It’s Easier To Consistently Make an Impact:
Night game can be frustrating because it’s completely random. One night a 10 thinks you are the coolest guy on the planet, but then the next night you get blown out by 6 trolls in a row. Girls are hit on so much every night, they begin to hit a threshold where they blow guys out as an automatic response. This also makes them resistant to having a conversation and opening up. If you can’t get the woman to open up, it’s likely that even if you do get her phone number, it will be flaky at best.
3. Quality Of Women Increases:
Meeting women at night is like playing the lottery. You literally have no idea what you are going to get. You might meet a brain surgeon who just happened to get a night off with her buddies. This is obviously not the norm. Going out on weekend nights gives you hire odds of meeting a woman with class and intelligence, but week nights the odds tumble. What girl is out at 1am on a Tuesday night besides your mom and sister? 
The women you meet going through your normal daily activities puts you in the path of women with similar interests and a similar lifestyle.
4. You get to keep a normal schedule:
Getting good at day game affords you the opportunity to meet women as you move through your normal schedule. Going out every night can really take a toll on your productivity and slowly degrade the quality of your life. From your sleep, to your energy during the day, to being around loud music and alcohol all the time, to sleeping all day…it can really destroy a productive healthy schedule.
5. It’s a much more romantic story: (Day Game the great equalizer)
It’s much easier to make a deep impact on a woman during the day because its a unique experience. Girls are not competently approached during the day very often. It’s much easier to stand out in a day approach than a night approach. A girl is dressed up, over validated by all the guys hitting on her, and resistant in general at night. During the day, she is not over validated and would likely welcome the validation of someone approaching her and showing interest.
Soul’s book is the comprehensive recourse on Day Game. It’s a must read if you are serious about getting this area of your game solid. Pick it up here: Soul’s Day Game Book
-Braddock
Dating Tips: How can I make girls laugh?
Question:
Barney Stintson: “So i can crack an endless amount of jokes and teases when i’m with my close friends, but its really hard to just get into that same mindset with a stranger…any ideas on how to break that barrier?
Answer:
What makes me funny is heavy doses of cheap booze and even cheaper women. I also noticed that women found my jokes much funnier once I dropped in that I had a 13 inch cock. I’m just kidding….maybe.
I had this same problem. Cracking my boys up and girls in my social circle….then….same jokes on girls in cold approach and a God damn tumble weed would roll through the room and you could hear crickets chirp.
What I figured out is that I was trying to pull them into humor that required to much insider info for a newcomer. A girl coming into your pre existing social circle will laugh at jokes she doesn’t quite get to feel accepted or because she can tell everyone else is responding to you well.
In cold approach you don’t get that luxury.
Think of it like this. In humor you have “local” and “global” themes. Local themes are themes that are funny only if you have been in that exact situation or had that exact very specific experience. This is what usually manifests with your buddies. You guys build joke after joke off of themes that have been running for years. You’ve seen the same movies, been on the same trips, you know specific quirks and character traits of each member of the group. Since all members know each member very well, a joke about one of those members quirks will get a laugh out of everyone. A one liner from a favorite movie will have the group cracking up, because it probably actually ties in several “local” themes that have been long running.
“Global” themes are themes that everyone can get and that need zero prior knowledge for them to understand. As long as they have been on planet earth, have the internet, watch some TV and have seen at least the top movies, than they will get these jokes.
These jokes are often less funny, but by starting with these, you can open them up to the idea that you are funny. They can get used to you and seeing your style of humor and then you can start building “local” jokes with them as the interaction progresses. This can happen really fast. Introduce a “global” theme and if they laugh, start introducing “local” themes to add spice and conspiracy between the two of you.
Jumping in with the “local” jokes is doable, but it obviously risks them not getting it and making you feel like your cock is hanging out in 2* weather.
Or….
Just tell them you have a 13 inch cock that you want to put in or around their mouth. It works 100% of the time 20% of the time.
-Braddock
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Social Circle Mastery: Key Players
Dating Tips: How Do I Date Hotter Women?
One of my favorite quotes and the foundational pillars of Social Circle Mastery is, “Proximity is power.”
At the end of the day you guys wouldn’t be doing this if you didn’t want to date hotter women. If it was just sex or quantity, then you could just take down a drunk bar pig every night. However, at the end of the day you got into all of this to date hotter women, not what you are currently getting.
What I have discovered is that at the end of the day, the guys who date the HOTTEST women ARE NOT NECESSARILY the guys with the best game….No. They are the guys with “enough” game…but superior proximity. They are the guys who have consistent close proximity to beautiful women.
I know some of my boys back in Oklahoma who have some of the best game I’ve ever seen….who AREN’T dating beautiful women consistently. When they come visit me in LA, they smash it. They are like a kid in a candy store. However, in Oklahoma they are fighting for 1 of the 3 hot girls in the club or social circle and the margin for error is insanely small.
On the other end of the spectrum, I have buddies in LA who have very average game, but they have access to beautiful women through their social circle and as a result they are consistently dating hot women. If they went with me to another city outside of these circles they would struggle, until they built a new social circle.
Guys are always asking me, “How do I get hotter women?” They think I’m going to give them some trick line or inner game shift that will set them free and unleash the inner cocksman. The are usually disappointed by my answer.
1. “Figure out where there is a large gathering of hot girls…social club…class…hobby….and join that.”
2. “Fall into friend mode with at least 3 hot girls who has gorgeous friends.”
3. “Become friends with a few club promoters…get access to all those clubs that won’t let you in. Or figure out how you and your buddies can get in.”
4. “Stop beating yourself up wondering why you can’t pull the one 10 out of that shit local bar near your house where there are 300 dudes….10 girls….and 1 hot girl. A girl in this club thinks she’s a 15….because in that room she is. If you pull her, it’s less a measure of skill and more random luck coupled with game….coupled with a few lucky logistical breaks.”
This is why SCM is so important. Create a lifestyle where you are naturally in the path of hot hot women all the time. Can you sniper off a 10 in a shit venue? Yes. Consistently? No. Do you get a special blue ribbon if you can? No. Do you want to make things easy on yourself so you can see her 3..4…5..10 times and not have to be so pushy and desperate, so things can happen more organically? I do.
Even if you are limited to cold approach because you don’t have time to build a social circle, you are still greatly increasing your odds if you are in a room full of beautiful women. If you normally go 3 for 10 in any club, regardless of quality, wouldn’t you rather go 3 for 10 in a room full of super hot women? I would.
Guys develop major inner game issues over this very simple distinction.
Classic Inner Game Issues Stemming From This:
“I get shaky around hot women, true 10’s. I can’t be myself. I’m great on 6’s and 7’s.”
(Guess what…we all do when we only go to shit bars with 1 hot girl in them and we can feel that we have 1 shot and it must be a homerun. Of course you are going to act like a retard around hot girls. When you only see 1 in the entire room, it feels like you are approaching a celebrity).
“When I get a hot girl I can’t walk away from her no matter how bad the relationship is, because she is so hard to replace.”
(Yeah….when you snag the one hot girl out of of the shit venue after going there 3,000 times…you’re going to feel a complete lack of abundance. When you build a social circle full of hot girls and you start penetrating the hottest clubs in your area…you will get used to being around hot girls. You will warm up on hot girls…get blown out by hot girls…and land some of those hot girls. Your body will calm down and you will start to feel less stressed about any one girl.
How to penetrate this places and social circles? That’s a whole post in itself. It starts with getting your lifestyle together, getting involved, and surrounding yourself with a team of cool guys who get it. (Not “pickup guys,” just normal guys who get it and understand this naturally.)
Am I saying you don’t need good game? Of course not. You need to have some skill…..you probably just need less than you think. 
Ok, next caller.
-Braddock
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Meeting Girls in College Q and A
Question:
Hey Braddock, just wanted to let you know you’re hands down my favorite instructor and I relate to you the most. I was also the popular kid in High School and now I’m going to Arizona State University this fall which is one of the biggest colleges in the nation and infamous for its party reputation. I know you’re extremely busy working with Lovesystems (I want to become an instructor in the future by the way)but I was wondering if you could answer my question on college game. I need advice on what to do during the first month or so to build an awesome social circle? Is it essential to join clubs, go to sporting events,etc. what will give me the best chance at “buzz” with girls in the future? I can’t afford to join a frat so that’s out of the picture. Plus, I have my best friend who’s going to college with me and essentially he’s the only guy I know there. He’s a smart guy who’s good with making friends with women and isn’t socially retarded, but he’s open minded and also wants to learn the system you teach. Do you have any master plan him and I could use to team up and take over that school? Please help us!!!
Your loyal fan and future Lovesystems instructor,
-Jason
Short Answer
Live near the action.
*Dorms if you guy have that are great
*The cool apartment complex where everyone lives and hangs out with the cool pool.
*House right near campus and all the parties or near the bars or near the tailgating for football games.
*The farther you live away from the action (even if it’s an awesome house) the more frustrated you will be and the more out of the loop you will feel.
*If you can live in the dorms….do it at least for a semester. You will meet so many girls it’s stupid.
Get involved:
*The more things you are involved in the more chances you get to meet girls.
*Pick stuff that is easy and doesn’t take a lot of extra time. School is hard enough. Don’t pick something that will eat up your week.
Throw Away Class or 2:
*Take at least one throw away class per semester that you know will be PACKED with girls.
*This class won’t help your major requirements and will be expensive way to meet girls, but it will assure you multiple encounters (a semesters worth) with the same girls, study sessions, etc… Which will give you multiple times to slowly get on their radar, invite them to stuff, and when you go out you will see them at parties and bars and have girls to say hi to “Buzz”
*Journalism classes are usually full of girls, education etc..
Ballroom Dancing:
*I took this every semester for 4 years. I fucking hate dancing, but it had 200 girls and 40 guys. We had to dance every song and as a result had a chance to flirt with and get to know every girl in class. I dated 8 girls one semester just from ballroom dancing. (Doesn’t have to be ballroom dancing, that was what mine was called…I’m sure there are other classes like this).
Never Turn Down A Good Time:
*Don’t let it mess up your grades, but you need to try to go to every good frat party/bar/whatever is going on. Exposure is key. If you only go out once a week, you will look up and feel like everyone on campus knows everyone and you will feel like you are on the outside looking in.
*Make guy and girl buddies. Meet people and introduce them to people. Make it a habit of texting people and asking them what’s going on and inviting them to things you hear about.
*Frat guys may be annoying as hell, but on some campuses they hold the key to the castle so to speak. Make some buddies in the houses and they can get you into the parties and introduce you to people.
*Try to get a schedule that allows you to have Fridays off or at least start late on Fridays. Most colleges have big party nights on Thursdays.
Good luck and thanks for the kind words,
-Braddock
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Booing Hot Girls In NYC
I’m sitting in the airport in NYC waiting my flight back to Los Angeles. I just finished up one of the most fun bootcamps I’ve ever been apart of. Awesome instructor team, great students, and we had a writer from the New York Times following us around.
One thing I always push my students to do is to study the tactical stuff but to let all that shit go and just have fun once you get to the bar. The weirdest guys I know and the guys who have the least success with women are the ones who are overly tactical. They don’t have fun, they look like they are at work, and they are so in their head thinking about the logical side of how to approach and meet women they end up creating a weird vibe and getting crushed. When you can blend “some” tactics with a great vibe, good things happen. Women can feel that and they’ll allow more “tactical” mistakes because they will enjoy the interaction.
Also, letting go of the serious tactical aspect of all of this helps remind you not to take any of this to seriously. I get blown out all the time…we all do..but I don’t give a shit. I’m always having fun and because of that, the blowouts mean absolutely nothing to me.
One thing I got from my good friend Calabrese is the idea that, “Where you are….is always the place to be. More specifically…where you are standing.” This doesn’t mean you stand there and pretend to have fun. It means you go out with guys you truly enjoy hanging out with, you stand in a somewhat high traffic area, you open anything that walks by pulling them into the fun you are having and create the fun area of the bar or club. Some girls will stop and have fun with you, some won’t…but no matter what you don’t care. This creates such a good energy. This type of energy is 10 times better than the energy you put off when you are combing the bar like a hunter looking for a deer. Fuck that.
Something we did this weekend that cracked me up was incorporating the “boo.” The instructors and students were having a blast in a bar in NYC, talking to everyone in the place. This really cute British girl walked by and Helicase tried to open her and she just brushed him off. Not sure why I decided to do it, but I started booing her as loud as I could. What cracked me up is INSTANTLY 3 of the students and Calabrese instantly jumped in and booed her like she was Kevin Garnett walking into the Staples Center. Even funnier 3 or 4 random guys who didn’t even know why we were booing (gotta love New Yorkers) instantly started booing with us. This poor girl had half the bar booing her for blowing out Helicase!
She just stopped by her friends who were laughing and turned around blushing and smiling. I walked over to her smiling and said, “Would you like to try this again and play nice this time? This is my friend Helicase.” She was embarrassed and cracking up. I doubt she had ever been booed in a bar. They ended up making out. Ha!
And the boo was born….
From then on we pretty much booed any girl that blew someone out for the rest of the weekend. Sometimes we would boo girls who didn’t blow us out, just because we were on a roll with the booing. I even had a really cute girl come up and grab me smiling and say, “I need to walk that way to meet my friends. You guys aren’t going to boo me are you?” And another girl ask me if we would boo her friend when she came out of the bathroom. HA!
The point is we were having fun and it created a situation that made us laugh and not take talking to girls so serious. It created just what Calabrese says, “Where we are is where the party is.”
That’s all the time we have for today kids. Over and out.
-Braddock
Dating Tip: Master Attraction Through Exercises
One of the easiest ways to practice attraction is through exercises on paper. Simply get a notebook and walk yourself through an interaction with a woman from meet all the way to taking her phone number. If it helps, picture your last interaction with a woman and write out how you wish it would have gone.
Write out each detail from opening, transitioning, teasing, when you would move her, what you would say to mover her, when/why you would do takeaways, when you would do statements of interest, qualifying her, comfort building topics, how you would ask for her number….etc.
I suggest you do one of these per night before you go to bed. This will allow you to work through your sticking points on paper and think them through. Things happen so fast in a bar or club it can be hard to see where you are getting stuck.
If you are new it can be frustrating because you may not be getting much farther than opening and fizzling out after a few questions. That’s ok. Keep going out and opening and fizzling out, because that is a key part of the learning curve. However, use this exercise to help you train to last a little longer.
The better you get, the more this exercise will help because it will help you think through logistical puzzles that constantly pop up and how to deal with them. Maybe you always lose girls because her friends pull her away. Well, sit down and think through how you could handle that. How could you preframe her so she won’t be so receptive to her friends pulling her away? How could you intercept and include her friends giving you enough time to calm them down and win them over?
It should look like this:
Braddock: “Hi, your really cute.”
Girl: “Thanks.”
Braddock: “Where are you from?”
Girl: “Bla bla bla.”
Braddock: “Bla bla bla.”
Hope this helps,
-Braddock
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Dating Tip: Become Successful With Women by Modeling
Modeling
The most common way we learn our dating habits is through modeling the behavior of others. It starts with modeling our parents when we are children, then through watching our friends, movies, etc…
When you hear someone say, “That guy is a natural” what they really mean is he had some great modeling as a child. When you think back to your childhood who did you accidentally model? Was your dad a smooth confident guy? Were you raised by a single mom who was overly religious and guarded? Were you raised by parents who had a healthy loving and caring relationship? Were you raised by parents who fought all the time and were basically roommates?
These models have a profound effect on you and will continue to play out in your own life if you are not aware of them and you don’t change them. The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree with most people. If your dad was a wimp who got pushed around by your mom, you’ll likely find yourself in similar relationships. If your dad was overbearing and dominated women in an unhealthy way, you’ll likely find yourself dominating women in relationships.
We tend to be identical to one or a combination of our parents belief systems in regards to love and relationships. We must be careful about the lessons we internalize and hold as fact.
Modeling Family
Just because someone we love and look up to did something a certain way, doesn’t make it the best/right way. Sadly we learn these behaviors at such a young age, they are now autopilot responses. We do them automatically and have a blind spot to how they might be holding us back. These blind spots could rear their head in multiple arenas depending on who you modeled.
If your dad married the wrong woman or was cheated on he probably taught you to be impatient and bitter toward women in general. If your dad was a weak guy who was just happy to have ‘a’ wife, then you were probably taught to put women on a pedestal and accept any and all behavior to please her. If your dad was a distant father who cheated on your mom but was loving and charismatic to the rest of the family, you probably learned that deep meaningful relationships with women are unrealistic and you learned to stay distant and guarded. Maybe your dad cheated on your mom and you saw how hurt your mom was, so you went the polar opposite. You have vowed to never hurt a woman and you’ve taken it so far that you feel guilty if you even tease a woman or shoot her straight.
Maybe you had a father who you look up to as if he is a superhero and he is amazing in most areas of life, but has a terrible relationship with your mother, but despite this you follow his relationship/dating advice dogmatically because you can’t stand the idea of letting him down. You’ll follow his advice even at the risk of marrying the wrong women and having an unsatisfying relationship for years just so you don’t disappoint him. Then when you have a son, you do the same thing to him, because that’s what you modeled and you don’t even know you are doing it to him.
Modeling Friends
I think picking a healthy peer group is one of the most important decisions of your life. We’ve all heard the saying, “You are the sum total of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” I couldn’t agree more. Just because a friend is a good friend, a good person, great at business, or even great at attracting women, doesn’t mean you should model how he handles relationships. Some of the most charismatic friends I’ve ever had who could attract the hottest women and sleep with any girl they wanted, were absolutely terrible at keeping an amazing woman or having a healthy relationship.
Some of those great tactics that cause deep levels of attraction can be taken to far and cause a toxic relationship where it’s nothing but fights and jealousy. The relationship becomes a constant power struggle where the primary tools of expressing love are jealousy, withdrawal, and unhealthy boundary function. It’s not about connected and dating their equal, it’s about dominating a woman and making sure she knows who has the power. Well, if you are modeling this, you can expect to end up in the same relationship prison.
We often assume success in one area of life must mean success in all areas of life. I have mentors who are great at attracting beautiful women, but this in no way makes them qualified to be a mentor in relationship management unless I have seen them in a loving healthy relationship. Be careful about modeling the behaviors, thought patterns, and actions of someone you consider successful.
Even worse is modeling the unhealthy friend who is jaded by women. These are the guys who are charismatic with guys and speak from such a place of authority it can be easy to get sucked into their reality and believe what they say and think. Often times these guys are extremely smart and interesting, but because they are either bad with women or were hurt by a woman they spew their negative beliefs onto anyone who is willing to listen. I was one of these guys for a while. I remember after one of my girlfriends dumped me there was about a year and a half where I hated women. I saw them all as trying to use men, manipulative, fake, not loyal, and just genuinely despised them. I’d spew my hate about women to all my friends and look for any shred of evidence I could find to validate my dark world view. I’d joke negative about women, jump on any opportunity to help my friends find reasons to dump their girlfriends and was on a search and destroy mission to find, sleep with, and crush every women in the tri state area.
Because I’m a charismatic guy and I was still good enough to sleep with women despite being jaded, my friends couldn’t help but model my behavior, but what a horribly unhealthy model for my friends to follow. I still feel guilty about the things I accidentally taught the guys around me and damage I probably caused in their lives and relationships.
Model specific behaviors, overall character, and overall proactive thought patterns. Don’t necessarily model their life.
Modeling Gurus
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is modeling the wrong dating coach. I did it….we all do this. Be very careful about this or you could find yourself running around a club wearing a top hat and 12 inch platform shoes. This industry is full of weird guys who hate women, have deep issues, are not as good with women as they say they are, over hype how good they are with women, and write tons of blog posts and articles that are half truths at best.
Be careful about accepting any dating advice as fact and be leery of modeling the thoughts and opinions just because a guy says he’s a dating coach. Take the time to read numerous posts from that particular dating coach and try to read between the lines and figure out where he’s coming from. Does it sound like it’s coming from a good place….a healthy place? Is it coming from a confident guy who is sharing what works or is he constantly trying to prove himself to an unknown audience? Does it sound like a guy trying to get validation from men by bragging? Is he writing to impress or teach? Does what he say sound WAY to good to be true? It probably is.
Another big problem I have with the community is many of the guys who teach this are not qualified to teach and those that are often write about and teach things that happen 1 out 100 times instead of teaching about what happens 99 out of 100 times. A lot of guys give no context for the things they teach or the things they tell you to say. Things like “negging” have caused huge problems for guys all over the world. There are guys all over the world going up to girls and saying rude comments like, “You have shit in your teeth.” The idea of negging is fine if it is explained properly, but it’s not, so good guys end up getting blown out by girls and coming across really creepy.
Guys will over hype things like bathroom pulls and other things that sound exciting on paper. They don’t tell you that they do those rarely and the girl usually is average looking at best. They make it sound like they are going out and pulling super models in the bathroom every night. If you read this and try to model it, you will find yourself frustrated and might even feel bad about yourself wondering why you can’t get the same result.
Worse than anything, if you are modeling the mind sets of some of these guys, you are modeling a really unhealthy guy and modeling 1/2 truths that aren’t even real. Some of the guys I’ve met through this don’t need to be giving advice to anyone and could use a bump in the dosage of their psych meds. Make sure the guy you are modeling is healthy or you will ultimately pay the price.
Who should you model?
Modeling the right dating coach or natural can be extremely helpful. Going to a bootcamp and watching guys who are amazing with women is priceless. Hearing the mindsets and beliefs of guys who are fantastic with woman can really set a good course for your dating life especially if you don’t have anyone who is good to model.
Make sure whoever you model is getting the results you want. If you meet a guy who is great with women, but all the girls he dates are damaged unhealthy women, you will be setting yourself up to attract the same kind of women. Model someone who is getting the results you want.
If you want a relationship, don’t model the guy who bangs 4 girls per week but hasn’t had a real relationship in his life. If you want 1,000 one night stands, don’t model the guy who is constantly in a long term relationship. That doesn’t mean you can’t steal a page out of each guys playbook, but who you’ll want to put your main focus of modeling people who are getting the exact result you want.
Model behaviors and thoughts…Don’t try to be that person..
Be careful when you model people that you don’t try to become that person. A lot of guys who were trying to model Mystery became weird carbon copies of him. I had a friend in college who tried really hard to do what I was doing and it got strange at times. He would use the exact jokes I would normally say and had pretty much copied the way I dressed, talked, joked, etc… It was not flattering to me. It annoyed me, it came off weird to our friends, and it creeped out the girls that knew him before he started doing that.
Also, don’t tell people you are modeling them. It creates a weird dynamic if you go out with a guy and you can tell he’s trying to be you. It’s ok to tell people you want them to mentor you, but you have to keep your identity and be your own person. Never try to become the person you are modeling.
Also, just because a guy is a good model to learn from, doesn’t mean he’s a good guy to continuously go out with. I’ve had friends who were drastically better than me in the past, but they were so good that I felt like the little tree that was surrounded by trees so big, I couldn’t get any light to grow. They got so much attention, that I would almost feel worse about myself when I would try to keep up. That’s ok. Spend some time going out with these guys and spend some time going out with guys more on your level so you can grow as well. When you go out with these guys, use it as an opportunity to learn, not as a competition.
What if you are forced to be around bad models?
You’re not FORCED to be around anyone. You choose who you spend your time with and can choose to go through the pain of clipping bad friends and finding new healthy social circles. I’ve done it 3 or 4 times in my life. It was hard, but it was well worth it in the long run. But, I do have family members who I love, but are not the best models in certain areas who I do spend time with. What I’ve done with these people is never give them a platform to taint my thoughts or accidentally corrupt me with the bad models they demonstrate. For example if they have a terribly unhealthy relationship, I NEVER discuss my relationships with them and will only discuss theirs if they are asking for advice. This means changing the subject, stop asking bad models for advice, stop letting them give you advice, and avoiding certain topics with them.
You have to guard your inner game like it’s Fort Knox. Don’t let unhealthy people pave the way for your thoughts. Surrounding yourself with healthy people will help you think and behave more healthy.
Summary
• I personally feel one of the keys to success with attracting women and having a healthy dating life is being able to model certain attributes from different people who are successful in specific areas.
• Model the behavior and thoughts, not the man in most areas. There are those few anomalies who have the entire package. Mr. M and I call these kind of people, guys who are going Supernova. They are blowing up and extremely successful, happy, and healthy and all the most important areas of life. I only know about 5 people like this and they are amazing people.
• Healthy models are key but at minimum, we must have the awareness to recognize a bad model so we don’t blindly follow the same path. Surrounding yourself with good models will allow you to pick up the positive attributes of who they are through osmosis. You can’t help but be affected by the people you spend the most time with.
Action Step:
1. Develop a sense of awareness: Take inventory of how your parents beliefs about dating, love, sex, and attraction were transferred to you. Write down how your beliefs might be identical or opposite to either of them.
2. Reflect: Write down how this modeling has effected your dating life. Also write down how modeling certain friends beliefs have effected your dating life.
3. Hit Reset: Become aware that this way of moving through the world isn’t necessarily you, but simply what you’ve learned. You now have a choice to be different and pick new models that are proactive to the goals and dating life you want. Now find models that align with what you are looking for in the form of natural friends, dating coaches, DVDs, audios, or books.
-Braddock
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