07/3/08Filed under: Inner Game

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“Braddock, thanks for posting that thread on “Fuck Oneitus” (a while back, found it with some determined searching) I’m going through a really tough time right now and your little “rant” on moving on has inspired me like nothing else throughout this entire process!!”

Reply:

I’m glad to hear it helped you. That is one of the hardest things a man can go through, so I feel you man.

One piece of advice I wish someone would have told me….

Don’t work to replace her or work to find a new girl to make you feel better. Don’t look to find a hotter or cooler girl to make her jealous. That mindset just keeps you trapped in a prison of the past. All your actions are oriented in reaction to her. This keeps her at the front of your mind constantly.

Try to look at your life as if it was a book. If you were writing “your book”, that relationship was just a chapter in your book. Let’s call it chapter 4. That chapter is over. Now, who knows what adventures or stories will make up chapter 5 and beyond!

But you can’t start writing the rest of the book until you stop reading and rehashing chapter 4. I promise it will get better and I promise you will look back at this as one of those tough battles that you wouldn’t want to endure again, but you are so glad you did. It will make you stronger and it will be a catalyst to tremendous growth in your life.

Get away from that bitch, take down the pictures, stop letting friends talk to you about her, stop talking to other people about her, don’t check her facebook or myspace. Every time you do that, you are no longer writing chapter 5. You are reading chapter 4 again, hoping it will end differently. Fuck that! You’ve read chapter 4, you know how it ends. Start writing chapter 5 and make it one of the best chapters in your book.

Good luck man! Thanks for the shout out,

-Braddock

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