Help with text and phone game…..
Originally Posted on the attraction forums
Ok, so I texted her and at first I did well, but I am just as confused as I was left before ……I would like some advice on what to do next and or how she is feeling right now, so I know what steps to take next.
Here is the whole TEXT conversation
Me: Hey “My Boo”haha, whats up?
HB9: Lol! u found my number! did it take u that long
Me: Haha I bet you do that with all the guys.
HB9: No first time
Me: Haha I was telling my friend about this weekend, I had a blast!
HB9: And 4 having boys up in ur bed
HB9: I had fun too. still hate me?
Me: Nah, Why would I be mad at you?
HB9: Im a terrible beer pong partner
Me: Your no worst than Derrick(my roommate) at beer pong haha but WHAT ABOUT GUYS IN MY BED!?
HB9: I dunno, its fucked upMe: Explain
HB9: NopeMe: Is that a term or do you mean like literally? Haha its hard to keep up with you xD
Me: OMG I get it now hahahahah
HB9: Get what silly?
Me: Haha anyways, so we should prob do it again sometime.
HB9: Ya we should cuz ur kinda funny
Me: Ok, I got something going on saturday, would you like to a company me? If not you got a sister? hahahaha
HB9: Sorry no sister. so wats this thing goin on saturday?(20-25min pass)HB9: HELLO
Me: Sorry at work lol. I dont like making plans to far in advance. I will call you thrusday with more details.
(1 hour passes)
Me: Sound good?
HB9:Sure.
My Response:
This is weak sauce man. She is giving you plenty of compliance. You can feel in her responses she is on the fence about you, waiting to see where you are going to lead the interaction. You are totally playing it safe with every text.
How would you text this girl if she was a 6 who had a cool personality, wasn’t hot enough to date, but you wanted to keep around cause you might bang her someday if you were ever drunk and she was a last resort?
I’m not saying you would get all dirty on her, but you would challenge her, be playful and push the envelope. Yes, there are situations when you don’t want to do this, IE when a girl is giving you little or no compliance, but the above texts are plenty of compliance.
Example…..
HB9: I had fun too. still hate me?
Me: Nah, Why would I be mad at you?
HB9: Im a terrible beer pong partner
If you are wondering where there was a window to show a playful side or show a little edge, this is one of them.
I wonder how she would have responded if you said something like this…
HB9: “I had fun too. Still hate me?”
Me: “Probably, for what?”
HB9: “I’m a terrible beer pong partner.”
Me: “Yeah, you do suck. I definately picked you cause your hot, not for your beer pong skills. My back hurts from carrying our team. Me=Jordan You=Steve Kerr”
Ok and this is also weak sauce….
Me: Is that a term or do you mean like literally? Haha its hard to keep up with you xD
Me: OMG I get it now hahahahah
HB9: Get what silly?
Me: Haha anyways, so we should prob do it again sometime.
HB9: Ya we should cuz ur kinda funny
Me: Ok, I got something going on saturday, would you like to a company me? If not you got a sister? hahahaha
HB9: Sorry no sister. so wats this thing goin on saturday?(20-25min pass)
HB9: HELLO
Me: Sorry at work lol. I dont like making plans to far in advance. I will call you thrusday with more details.
(1 hour passes)
Me: Sound good?
HB9:Sure.
I want you to read this again, but you read as if you are HB9 and “your” responses are from a girl you know you could have, but don’t necessarily want. Can you feel the power shift when you do that? Can you feel how you are chasing?
Next thing that needs improvement….
Me: Is that a term or do you mean like literally? Haha its hard to keep up with you xD
Me: OMG I get it now hahahahah
HB9: Get what silly?
I feel like this was an attempt to bait her into something sexual. Am I right? If I am this is not very good man. For the next month or so don’t worry about trying to get girls to talk dirty. My advice is that you work on being playful with girls and promise yourself that you won’t chase. Playful, flirty, and push/pull. Don’t become some asshole who has a mean joke for every sentence, but play with it for a while and find a nice middle ground.
Was this trying to take things sexual? Don’t do it like this. She was nowhere near going sexual. When a girl goes sexual it is usually more overt and there is usually more of a hint that includes you. She was being general and non sexual.
Then in the end I feel like you are trying to be smooth and challenging, but it just doesn’t come off that way at all. It sounds like you really don’t have something cool, but you hope you can get her to come without telling her.
Me: Haha anyways, so we should prob do it again sometime.
HB9: Ya we should cuz ur kinda funny
Me: Ok, I got something going on saturday, would you like to a company me? If not you got a sister? hahahaha
HB9: Sorry no sister. so wats this thing goin on saturday?(20-25min pass)
HB9: HELLO
Me: Sorry at work lol
Up to here you are fine!!!! Now just tell her what exactly is going on Saturday or tell her you will call her this weekend and let her know. Don’t try to be smooth on something simple. She is just trying to collect options for Saturday. You can be smooth and mysterious if a girl already wants you. It means shit if a girl is on the fence or has only moderate interest.
(20-25min pass)
HB9: HELLO
Me: Sorry at work lol. I dont like making plans to far in advance I will call you thrusday with more details.
(1 hour passes)
Me: Sound good?
HB9:Sure.
Ok, the reason 1 hour passes is because you made it sound like the next time you will communicate is Thursday, which is fine. Just call her Thursday with plans and lose the “I don’t like making plans this far in advance” crap. If that were true then you wouldn’t tell her you have something ‘planned’ for Saturday. That’s where you sound like you are trying to be smooth or trying to play hard to get, but it’s actually just weak.
Minus that “I don’t make plans in advance” stuff it was fine, but then you chase HARD with….. “Sound good?”
Me: Sorry at work lol. I dont like making plans to far in advance I will call you thrusday with more details.(1 hour passes)
Me: Sound good?
Why is this chasing? Because you tried to sound smooth, busy, challenging, dominant, whatever you want to call it with the “I’ll call you thursday with more details” as if you are waiting to here back from Brad Pitt and Paris Hilton about where the big party is going to be, but then 1 hour later you are so worried abou what this girl thinks that you just have to make sure she didn’t take it the wrong way so you say… “Sound good?”
See why that is weak sauce? It contradicts the whole image you tried to play. Drop the image from now on. Because here is the deal. If you randomly insert some image or some challenging text, but then contradict it every other text she sees you as weak.
The key is to drop any and all images and just be playful and challenging from the start. Then when she asks you what you are doing this weekend or you ask her and she is compliant be relaxed about it.
Good example, maybe something like this…..
Me: Ok, I got something going on saturday, would you like to a company me? If not you got a sister? hahahaha
HB9: Sorry no sister. so wats this thing goin on saturday?
(20-25min pass)
HB9: HELLO
Me: “Fighting terrorism, rescuing children from a burning orphanage, you know the usual. lol But after that my friend Mike is having a barbeque for the UFC fight. Should be fun.”
Until next time remember kids, milk has an expiration date for a reason.
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