Daxx, Welcome to the Love Systems Family
Daxx is a London based instructor who has been helping the Love Systems family for several months now and was recently promoted to junior instructor. This guy earned his stripes the hard way by putting countless hours in the trenches working on his game. One of the things I respect the most about Daxx is his ability to attract and utilize strong mentors.  I feel like that is one of my strongest and most important abilities, so it was refreshing to see the same trait in a younger guy.
I can remember when I was an approach coach and a junior instructor and when I would help out a lead instructor I would take notes like it was my first bootcamp and really study the finer points of what made each of them a quality instructor.
I can remember helping The Don, Sheriff, Mr. M, Tenmagnet, Sinn, Future, and Savoy with their individual bootcamps and instead of pretending that I knew something that they didn’t, I would go into student mode and really try to get in their brain and see how they operated. I never came at them with ego or tried to impress them. I just wanted to learn as much as possible and absorb as many free lessons from them as I could. Many guys you meet take the opposite approach and are either uncomfortable, borderline standoffish, or they try to be overly unimpressed when they are around people that are stronger then them in a given area.
When you act like this around a potential mentor you are basically slapping him in the face. Why would he want to open up and share with you? It’s just as bad to come across as a fan boy who treats the mentor as if he is better than you, but finding a happy medium is the gateway to FREE priceless life lessons.
Daxx is the first approach coach I’ve ever seen who has this skill of attracting and utilizing mentors on such a high level.  Daxx never tries to act like he’s better than you, but he never kisses your ass either. You never since an agenda or that he is saying one thing in hopes of getting something. You can since an honest hunger for knowledge and a deep appreciation for whatever you share with him.
The guy has been to several of my seminars and even more of Mr. M’s and every time he takes notes and asks questions. I don’t see him very often because he lives across the pond, but each time I do, it’s obvious that the kid has been working on himself and on his game. His game has evolved at a faster rate than anyone’s I’ve ever seen. He went to the Playboy Mansion with Mr. M’s group at the Superconference here in Los Angeles and I’m pretty sure he walked out with 8 or 9 phone numbers from some of the hottest girls in LA. His game is sick.
How did Dax become good so quickly?
1/4 came from his natural ability. He’s naturally charismatic, he’s worked hard to master his style, and he works out a lot so he looks sharp.
1/4 from increasing his knowledge through reading and studying game information.
1/4 from actual time in field opening countless sets.
1/4 (Arguably the most important) came from his access and utilization of superb mentors. He spends a lot of time with Vercetti, Mr. M, and has spent substantial time with myself.
Does that mean the entire time he is around these guys or myself he is annoyingly asking us 100 questions? No. Most of the knowledge he has acquired came through osmosis. Just being around strong mentors will have a drastic impact on you and your game.
Other guys could have risen just as fast as Daxx, but they either had farther to go to start with (and their is nothing wrong with that) or they ruined their chances with those mentors by either doing things to annoy them by emotionally leaning on the mentor or by trying to hard to impress them. Or they came across as having an agenda so the potential mentor felt like he was being used and as a result shut down.
Daxx’s ability to utilize mentors is one of the things I respect the most about him, but another thing that I really enjoy about Daxx is his balance. For a guy at such a young age to have his life so put together in all areas is amazing. I love helping anyone who wants help, but I do not want to spend substantial amounts of time with people who don’t have their shit together. The more someone leaks emotionally and ‘needs’ you instead of wants to hang out with you, the more you find yourself wanting to distance yourself from them.
The more someone has their shit together, is generally happy with themselves, and makes you feel respected and understood, the more you are naturally drawn to that person. When a person like that shows up, they add value to your life because they are a pleasure to be around. (not becaue they kiss your ass). No…because their self reliance, self respect, and genuine respect for you creates good feelings inside you and everyone around them. When you come into contact with a person like this and they are interested in mentorship of any kind, you can’t wait to help them. Key…they “want and appreciate” the mentorship…..they don’t “need” it.
Need is the death of attraction with women and friendship and mentorship with men. Trying to make it clear you don’t need them is just as bad. I also shut down from guys who ‘try’ to act overly unimpressed, closed off, or try to impress me.   Happy people like themselves and like everyone else. They aren’t going to try to withold appreciation or respect from someone who has genuinely earned it.
Anyway, I’m glad you are on the team kid.  Get em pimp!  Look for this guy to do big things in the near future.
Check out Daxx’s blog.
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