What Makes A Great Dating Coach?
1. A Great Dating Coach Must Have Great Game:
There are many factors that go into being a good Dating Coach. Obviously having great game is the number one criteria. I still think it’s strange how many guys I meet from other companies who have zero game. I don’t really get why they are doing this job. It must literally be for the validation of other guys. I don’t know how you would sleep at night knowing you were standing in front of a group of guys who paid a large sum of money knowing you were a complete sham.
Savoy told me that one of the LEAD instructors from a company I will not name, became a Dating Coach when he had only slept with 1 woman. That is insane to me! What a mother fucker. That means he basically created a seminar off of random posts he found on the internet and pretended like he was an expert.
I don’t know how a guy who does something like that can sleep at night. You can damn well believe his chest hurts every time he looks in the mirror. Sadly, I have met a lot of guys like this in the dating science community. When it comes to how good someone is with women believe what you see him do, not what you hear him say about himself.
I’m not saying that you have to be a scum bag who sleeps with thousands of women to be a good Dating Coach, but to really master the principles of dating science you will need countless reference experiences in a wide array of situations. A guy who doesn’t understand that can send new guys down a really bad path if he’s not careful.
I know from being a Dating Coach for a while now that there are certain things that look sexy and then there are things that actually get results. I’ve watched every product on the market and it makes me sick when I see a Dating Coach who obviously doesn’t get laid standing on stage sounding really confident and convincing to someone who doesn’t know better. This kind of bullshit makes me sick, because for a guy who is new to this stuff and trying to get a solid foundation it is sad that he accidently stumbled upon that guy.
He might spend 6 months or even a year studying that dating coaches method and really building a rotten foundation. Sadly, he will have to spend another 6 months or more unwinding all the weird bullshit he has internalized (that’s if he even realizes that what he is learning is wrong).
I have watched so many of these infield videos that look good on the surface, but to a guy who actually dates and sleeps with hot girls, he can tell that these guys are simply making these girls laugh and have zero chance of sleeping with them or dating them.
Take the time to really read dating coaches’ posts and compare that to other dating coaches posts. If you dig deep enough, you can tell who is full of shit and who actually gets results.
Having great game does not mean that the Dating Coach can walk into any bar in the world and walk out with a hot woman EVERY night, that is unrealistic. You should never judge ANY Dating Coach of one night or even one weekend. You should judge his overall success. A Dating Coach who has truly mastered this stuff and is practicing what he preaches is consistently sleeping with and dating beautiful women.
If you want to learn how to date beautiful women, make sure you pick a Dating Coach who consistently dates beautiful women. If you want to date 5’s and 6’s then find a Dating Coach who consistently dates 5’s and 6’s (there are plenty of them out there).
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2. A Dating Coach Must be a Great Teacher:
I remember when Savoy first hired me he told me that having great game was only half of the battle of becoming a great Dating Coach. He told me that it was crucial that I was able to teach the material and quickly recognize guys sticking points. That hit me hard when he told me that, because at the time I was not a good teacher and I had never even thought about how important that would be.
Barry Bonds may be able to hit 70 homeruns per year, but that doesn’t mean he has the ability to break down and teach his swing to you. There are naturals everywhere who get laid like rock stars, but if you ask him how he does it he will just shrug.
A really good Dating Coach is like a scientist. He is constantly looking for ways to take things that look complex and break them down into digestible parts. You are constantly going out and testing new things and refining them down to there most important components and sequences.
Because he has spent so much time breaking down these complex processes into small parts, he is able to quickly see what part a guy is missing. This is why taking a bootcamp with a good Dating Coach is so powerful. They can dissect your game and see exactly what is missing because they have seen it so many times.
One way you can tell if a Dating Coach treats this like a science is by looking at his ability to innovate. Does he come up with new ideas or does he simply keep recycling old stuff that he has said a million times? If he was truly in the field working on this stuff and at home breaking it down, new epiphanies would pop up all the time no matter how good he was.
Dating is easy and complex all at the same time. It’s just like anything else in life, once you internalize the principles and get your mind out of the gutter it seems as easy as riding a bike, but until then it feels like you are learning a foreign language.
Game is not a one size fits all glove. There are general concepts like the emotional progression model that apply across the board, but the specifics of game must be tailored to the individual. A good Dating Coach must be able to not only break down the material into bite size chunks, but also present it in a way that helps the light bulb go off in each individual students head.
Each student is different and each student has a unique learning style. Some guys learn better when you give them a kick in the ass and some guys learn best when you talk to them like a caring older brother. A good Dating Coach can custom fit the lesson to the student.
A great teacher is one who is teaching to serve the student and not to serve himself. So many of the dating coaches I’ve watched on DVD are teaching to serve themselves. What I mean by this is, they are using the teaching platform as a chance to brag and pump their own ego instead of as a vehicle to open the minds of their students. Pay close attention when you listen to a guy speak and ask yourself, “Is he speaking to me or is he speaking simply to make himself sound good?” “Is he speaking from a place of a guy who has been there before or does he sound more like he’s trying to convince himself he believes what’s coming out of his mouth?”
There are definitely other things, but these two are the most important.
Alright that’s all the time we have for today folks.
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So where does David X fit into all this? Thanks.
LMAO!!!!!! Larry and David X are at the pinnacle of dating coaches.
man you are so right. I have seen some kids who spent thousands of dollars to live with a dating coach for a week and have zero game at the end. Some guys just have good marketing….
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Hey Braddock…you would be doing all of us a favor if you could name these scum bags…I know it will probably cause lawsuits or whatever but I don’t care…you would be saving thousands of guys from learning from these scums of the earth…your helping more than your hurting if these guys are called out..again just a suggestion
There is obviously a lot to know about this. I think you made some good points in this subject. So, just want to say great job!
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