Dating Coach Mr. M of Love Systems: Interview 2 of 7
My boy, Love Systems Dating Coach Mr. M, has been on about a 11 week tour of bootcamps all over the world.  When I was with him in Australia I think he still had 3 or 4 bootcamps left in some pretty cool cities. He just finished a bootcamp in Washington DC and now he is heading back to Germany to do one more and then he will kick off Project Rockstar.
After spending so much time with Mr. M I have learned quite a few things from him. We work well together because, while we are really close friends and have tons in common, we are almost polar opposites in so many areas of our lives. We bring 2 distinctly different world views, reference experiences, belief systems, and tactics to the table and almost never see something exactly the same way.
As dating coaches trying to generate theory for new seminars or products, this can be painful working together at times. It means we have to boil things down 100 times before we finally agree on something, but it makes the final product twice as strong.
What’s cool about working with someone who is polar opposite (yet has equal or greater success in the same area) is that you get to learn a lot. I rarely learn much from someone who agrees with everything I say or who has the exact same style and world view as I do. Today I want to share 5 random things that I have learned from Mr. M.
Things I’ve Learned From Dating Coach Mr. M (1 of 5)
1. Mr. M Always Has A Student/Scientific Mind Set:
One thing that I have learned from working with Mr. M on so many bootcamps and from breaking down game to create new seminars is the importance of always being ok with being the student. It is really easy as a Dating Coach to either think you know it all or even worse, to feel like you SHOULD know it all. This creates a horrible stagnation in your own personal growth. Tony Robbins talks about the idea of “C.A.N.I.” (constant and never ending improvement).
When you are a Dating Coach, you feel like you should have all the answers all the time and that admitting that someone (especially a non instructor) knows something you don’t can be hard to admit externally. Mr. M was already a lead instructor when I first came on as an approach coach. One thing I quickly learned from him was that he didn’t care your supposed rank, he only cared about results. If he thought you were good or saw you do something good, he would sit you down and pick your brain.
It was a really good feeling the first time I met him, to have the world famous Mr. M make me sit up for 3 hours as he broke down my game. He didn’t care that I was an approach coach. He was more focused on learning something he didn’t know than he was about keeping up a front and keeping me in my place.
He constantly does this, not just with dating science, but with anything he wants to learn. He actually practices what we preach in the Inner Game seminar about surrounding yourself with mentors in all the key areas of your life and absorbing knowledge from them that you can’t possibly have.
Countless times, I’ve seen Mr. M walk up to naturals who were killing it in a bar during bootcamp and quiz them on what they said and to a girl and why! LoL
He stays curious about how things work and how he can apply them to his own life and he quickly tries them out. That’s what separates him from most guys. Everyone on the forums is trying to figure it out and be a student, but very few quickly break it down and go try it over and over.
If Mr. M thinks you are better at him then something, he will openly ask you about it, ask you why you do it that way, what you are thinking when you do it, and what outcome you are hoping to get from it. He will immerse himself in your thought patterns. In neurobiological terms, he will make you fire the set of neuronets that you constantly use in that situation and he will keep walking through it from every angle possible forcing himself to fire the same neoronets you are firing in his own brain.
He will quiz you –> go try it –> Mess it up –> Quiz you on the missing pieces –> Go try it –> Mess it up less –> Quiz you   etc etc etc….
Most guys have to much of an ego to do this. Until I met Mr. M, I had to much ego to do this. I didn’t want to admit that as an instructor, that I might have short comings in certain parts of my game. However, after meeting and working with Mr. M the last couple of years, I’ve learned this is one of the most crucial tools top success.
So, Lesson 1 From Mr. M: Always be a student…
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