Dating Coach Mr. M of Love Systems: Interview 3 of 7
Lesson 3 Dating Coach Mr. M has taught: Mentors are Key
One of the most important things we’ve added to our Inner Game seminar is the section on mentors. Mentors are key to almost every area of my life and since I have decided to actively seek them out my life has changed drastically. I’ve always had mentors in my life, but it was always just random luck that they were in my life or they were coaches or teachers.
After looking at the network that Mr. M has developed in London using the skills we developed in Social Circle Mastery I saw the power of networking. What we realized is that mentors can cut your learning curve by as much as 80%.
Having a real life mentor allows you to absorb knowledge through osmosis as opposed to interpretation. While learning out of a book or from watching a video can be quite helpful, it’s no substitute for learning from a close mentor. In the last year I’ve tried to add a key mentor in all the key areas of my life. Sometimes one person can serve as a mentor in several areas, but it’s key that the person is an expert in that area.
I think the most important thing about mentors is that they won’t accidentally give you poor advice. Many good intentioned friends can set you on a fools errand by accidentally giving you advice that they are not an expert at. Be careful about the mentors you pick. Anyone who knows how to build a website and has a video camera can start pumping out advice as if they are an expert.
One of my biggest frustrations with the seduction community is this exact situation. I’ve seen several guys who obviously have deep psychological issues pumping out Inner Game advice and telling people how they should live their lives. Be careful who you take advice from and do your homework.
A guy who makes a middle class income has no business telling you what it takes to become a millionaire. A guy who married the first girlfriend he ever dated has no business telling you how to succeed as a single guy trying to build a cool lifestyle. A guy who has deep issues and who has obvious problems, is not someone who you should take Inner Game advice from. I love the quote, “Never take advice from someone who isn’t living the life you want to live.”
I used to ask advice on money, dating, and life in general from just about anyone. It would end up making me question myself and often times leading me far in the wrong direction. Now I rarely ask advice from someone unless they have an extremely successful track record at the thing I’m working on.
It’s also nice having them watch you and give you real time feedback. This is why bootcamp is so amazing. Guys will have read Magic bullets and listen to the audio series, yet make more progress in 3 days then they have in years.
Mentors are key,
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