Interning for Dating Coach Braddock: Value's Journal
I’m a pretty normal guy. I was born in a small town, graduated from high school and then graduated from college. I moved to LA, got a normal job and have been living a good normal lifestyle.
As I got older, I started to notice more and more of my friends started to pair off with cool girls into relationships. For some reason or other, I stayed single. As normal as I was, there was just SOMETHING that I wasn’t getting.
On my 26th birthday one of my friends from my hometown came to visit me in LA. He was a huge dork in high school, but when he came down he was a new man. Over the weekend, he ended up going to a playboy party and going on dates with playboy girls after the event. I was absolutely amazed, and when I asked him what changed, he told me that he hired a Dating Coach.
At first I laughed, but in my heart of hearts, I knew I would have to do something. And so, late one night when I sat alone in front of my computer, I opened up a new window and entered into Google “Dating Coach.”
Over the next couple of months I read multiple articles about how to become successful with women. As I became more and more knowledgeable, I started to see that there were a variety of different sources of information and that that some of them contradicted each other. If I was going to learn how to be successful with women and dating I would have to find the best mentor for my goals.
In my mind there were two criteria. First, I wanted to become more successful in my entire life, not just with women. This meant that I would need to find somebody who could help me set goals and eliminate my limiting beliefs. Second, most dating coaches online seemed to talk about sleeping with as many girls as possible, which was not my goal. I just wanted to be able to date some of the cool girls I was meeting through my social circle.
With these criteria in mind, I came across Braddock’s Blog. Braddock is a Dating Coach who teaches classes on “Inner Game” which met my first criteria and “Social Circle Mastery” which met my second criteria. I found the best “Dating Coach” for me.
It turns out that a couple of other friends who were trying to learn how to be successful with women were actually interning with Braddock and suggested that I help out. I jumped at the opportunity. Over the next few months I did a variety of odd jobs until one day I got a call from one of the other interns who said Braddock wanted to meet to talk about the rest of the internship.
Last Thursday, we got together over dinner at a bar in Hollywood. Braddock was there with two other Love Systems instructors, Daxx and Da Hunter. Over dinner we got to know each other. It was pretty entertaining listening as they talked about text messages they were sending to girls. I could tell I would learn a lot. True to the hype, one of the waitresses was ALL over Braddock. Apparently they had a history and it was clear that she really really REALLY liked him. After seeing this there was no doubt in my mind that this guy is legit.
After dinner Braddock gave us a talk that was very motivating. He dropped some dating axioms. For example, dating is boring. The pattern of interaction or VIBE is normal… normal… normal… SPIKE… normal… normal. It’s not SPIKE SPIKE SPIKE SPIKE like a lot of the internet material would have you believe.
Another axiom was that success with women is mostly about giving them the right amount of push (teasing, challenge) and pull (compliments, caring). Every woman has her own specific ratio and you have to figure out her blueprint and give it to her.
Finally he gave us a couple of assignments. First he wanted us to keep track of our thoughts in a journal. Apparently we have 90% of the same thoughts every day. By keeping track of our thoughts we can start to influence those thoughts we have repeatedly into being positive thoughts.
Next, he wanted us to do a “trigger word” exercise. He called over the waitress that he was flirting with and asked her to tell us 10 facts about her. For each fact we should think of a push and a pull. That way we start to internalize those behaviors. He told us we should do this with every girl that we want to establish an emotional connection with.
Finally, he gave us an exercise where he asked us to write down our goals. Apparently Braddock is going to track our progress on his blog and posting our goals is the first step. It’s a little crazy, but I’m committed for two reasons: 1) I’m determined to find an amazing girlfriend and 2) I’ve found the best mentor possible to teach me how to become successful with women.
Until next time,
-Value
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Totally worthwhile activity. How can you get what you want if you don’t really know what it is?