How To Get The Most Out Of A Love Systems Bootcamp
1. Attitude:
As a Dating Coach there are two types of attitudes that I see on my bootcamps:
a). The guy that shows up with the attitude of, “Give me the tools so I can go home and fix myself.”  I would say that 70% of the guys I see show up with this attitude. The guys I love to help and the guys that get the most out of bootcamp are the one’s that show up with an excited enthusiasm about the weekend.
These guys energize the group at night and make it a lot of fun to teach. These guys make tons of growth over the weekend and the absorb so much more because of their willingness to give me a clean slate an try ANYTHING I ask them to. These guys get their monies worth and set themselves up for long term success after the bootcamp. These guys are the one’s that will stay with it and fight through the highs and lows because they have the right mindset.
b). The guy who shows up with the attitude of, “Fix me. I paid for this so YOU would fix me. If I don’t change this weekend, it’s because you didn’t fix me, not because of me. “  These guys are a FUCKING NIGHTMARE! These guys either won’t try what you ask them to, make pussy ass excuses for why it wouldn’t work for them, and/or they spend 80% of the weekend trying to punch holes in what is going on and 20% of their time actually trying it. They don’t get much out of the weekend because they have massive blind spots and won’t get out of their own way and surrender to the process.
No matter what you say they have an excuse for why that doesn’t really apply to them. They refuse to take 100% accountability for their actions and as a result they have created an invisible prison they refuse to walk out of. These guys frustrate me the most because you can see that with just a slight shift in mindset and a little less ego, the bootcamp could completely shatter their world view and change their dating life. They will try one or two approaches and if it doesn’t go PERFECT, they use that as evidence to reinforce their negative perspective.
(Be guy A)
2. Read Magic bullets At Least Once:
Reading Magic bullets before attending a bootcamp will help your mind not feel so overwhelmed. We go much deeper and specific in bootcamp and if every concept is completely new it can feel a little overwhelming. Many guys liken bootcamp seminar portion to trying to drink from a fire hydrant. You will have some very deep concepts thrown at you and it’s nice if you are least familiar with them on a basic level. A lot of guys take a bootcamp without reading Magic bullets, so it’s not the end of the world if you haven’t, you’ll just find your hand hurting from taking so many notes. (You’ll probably feel like this anyway)
3. Take It Easy On The Pickup Literature:
A lot of guys come to our love systems bootcamps having read every ebook and having watched every dvd ever made. While I do suggest you read Magic bullets and the Classic Writings section of the attraction forums, I suggest you limit it to not much more than that leading up to your bootcamp. The information overload creates massive gaps in your learning and causes your brain to lockup with you are actually talking to women. In the last few years of being a Dating Coach I’ve noticed that the guys who need a bootcamp more than anyone and who simultaneously struggle the most are the guys who have overloaded their mind with way to much info without enough action.
These guys will show up in seminar and say stuff like, “Well, are you sure that’s how you should do that? Style says that you should X in that situation. David Deangelo says that you should Y.”  or “Don’t you need a neg calibrator if you are going to give a statement of interest.”   O MY GOD!!!! No wonder you are locking up in set. Your mind is full of way to much trash. You will learn more in the first hour of the infield portion of your bootcamp than you will learn by reading 600 ebooks of theory. I would argue that most ebooks are worthless UNTIL you have enough approaches under your belt to truly know what the author is really talking about.
Get the basics down of Magic bullets, understand the general idea and flow of The Emotional Progression Model, understand what the Triad Model is trying to do, memorize an opener or two, and have a few transitions in your pocket….that’s it. From there, trust in what I’m saying and go out and get reference experiences that night to help you really internalize how and why each concept works. Don’t be a nerd who argues about which pickup guru has the best theory without even trying it. That is a pussy thing to do. This is about getting better at communicating with women and you only get better at that by doing it.
The students who struggle the most, besides the “fix me” guys, are the ones that spend half the seminar trying to impress you on all the pickup literature they’ve read. I honestly could care less if you’ve read every ebook and watched every DVD ever made. I just want to you get better with women. If Ross Jeffries DVD on how to anchor her to a sugar packet works so well, then why are you sitting in my seminar room?
Reciting information from different products during the seminar only knocks me out of rhythm of what I’m trying to teach and annoys the other students who paid a lot of money to learn from Love Systems. Again, if that stuff was so great and so helpful then you wouldn’t be sitting in my seminar.
Throw all that stuff out for 3 days. I’m not saying it’s not valid or that everything love systems teaches is the be all end all. I am saying that dabbling all over that map leads you to confusion and stress. Picking a system and really applying it through trial and error is the only way to reach mastery. Did you really pay $3,000 dollars to argue with me about if Style or Swinggcat has a different take on a situation than what I teach?!?!?
4. Completely Surrender For 3 Days:
Love Systems did not become the biggest and best dating science company on planet earth on accident. It was born out of results. We take this job very serious and are extremely professional.  We have helped countless men from ALL walks of life, all over the world. You can not begin to imagine the wide range of guys I’ve seen on bootcamp.  I’ve had male models, handicapped guys, ex professional athletes, a 61 year old men, tons of 50 something year old men, 18 year olds, Fortune 500 executives, countless doctors, lawyers, construction workers, self proclaimed computer nerds, stereotypical cool kids, frat guys, and even 1 lesbian.  I can assure you that your situation, no matter where your coming from, I’ve seen it before and helped a guy just like you get better with women.
That being said, do yourself a favor and show up with the mindset, “I’m going to do anything this guy say no matter how outside of my comfort zone it is. I will not question it or filter it through what I would normally do. If what I normally did worked, I wouldn’t be here so I’ll give this guy a shot. Hell, it’s only 3 days, why not? If I do what I’ve always done, I’ll get what I’ve always gotten.”
Give me a clean slate. As my good friend and fellow love systems Dating Coach Mr. M says, “Let me own who you are and how you think for 3 days and I’ll change your life.”
5. Know What You Are Looking For:
Are you looking to find your dream girl? Are you looking to pull more ass than a hamstring? Are you looking to date more women and become more social? Are you looking for nothing but one night stands?  Are you looking for a potential wife?
Most guys are looking for a combo of several or all of these and that’s why the love systems bootcamp is set up like it is. We teach you in a manner that will allow you to facilitate any of those options. I’ll show you how to get to certain way points that will allow you to steer the interaction to whatever desired outcome you are looking for.
That being said, the guys who get the most out of bootcamp are the guys who know what they are looking for. If you are looking to sleep with 1,000 girls you will want to present yourself drastically different from a guy who is looking for dates and potential girlfriends. If you are looking for a girlfriend it is detrimental to run the same style of game as a guy who is screening for one night stands.
Knowing what you are looking for will drastically help me and the other instructors cultivate a style that is specific to you.
6. Do Some Inner Game Work Before You Show Up:
Taking my Inner Game seminar or at minimum reading some of the books I’ve recommended will help you drastically. I wish more guys would spend their time reading Inner Game material and less time reading pickup related material. It would help them profoundly. The cleaner you feel on the inside, the better women will respond to you and the faster you will bounce back emotionally when you do inevitably get rejected.
My seminar does take a stab at Inner Game concepts on day one and I will destroy your approach anxiety, but Inner Game is such a deep topic it’s an insult to pretend to do it justice in a small section of a seminar. Bootcamp in and of itself can have a profound effect on your Inner Game because you will walk away from there with a swagger and confidence that you may have never felt, however the more of your basic issues you have mopped up before showing up to boocamp, the more you will get out of the experience.
7. Make it easy on your instructor team:
One of the quickest ways to throw your instructor team into a bad head space and to guarantee that they do weird or below average demos is to put them on the spot about it. I only bring guys on my workshops who are willing to do demos, but that being said it’s weird if you grab the instructor and say, “I want to see you get her.” This usually ends badly, because it puts the instructor in a weird head space. ALL THE INSTRUCTORS ON MY BOOTCAMPS DO DEMOS! That being said, if you want to see some amazing stuff happen, let the guys warm up and hit their stride organically. The instructors are just normal guys like you. They need to warm up and get relaxed and build some momentum.  On all of my bootcamps I make my students go warm up the first 30 minutes or so and I also ask my junior instructors to do the same.
I’ve seen a lot of amazing dating coaches wash out because the students made them uncomfortable by putting them under the microscope to hard. If you really want to learn and see something amazing, just leave them alone about the demos and let them happen as the night progresses.
You can also make it easier on yourself and the instructor team by being extremely proactive. Savoy makes us keep a 3:1 student to instructor ration. After years of doing these, this is right at the perfect amount.  On some of my bootcamps I am lucky enough to have a 2:1 ratio just to make sure we have plenty of eyes on students. That being said, the club scene is very disassociative and hectic. Be proactive and always make sure an instructor is watching you. We are there for you and want to make sure you have a life changing weekend. Don’t hide in the corner or go off in some weird upstairs room away from everyone and then wonder why nobody was watching you. Go have fun and get in the zone, but if you look up and feel like it’s been a while since you’ve seen an instructor, go find one and ask him to come watch you. I promise you, he’ll be glad you told him.  If you feel like the instructors are doing to many demos, feel free to pull them away from the girl and ask them to come help you. They will be more than glad to come help you right then.
8. No game talk in the club:
The worst thing you can do in a club is stand in the corner talking theory. You just spent 5 hours talking theory in seminar. The night portion of the Love Systems bootcamp is all about action. Even when you get blown out, don’t run back to the instructor right then waiting for a 20 minute explanation of what you did wrong. Keep moving. Keep approaching, having fun, and starting conversations. Unless you are doing something glaringly wrong, the instructor team won’t have much feedback on a set that lasted 30 seconds. They will have advice as they watch you over the course of the night.
On my bootcamps I tell the junior instructors that they can talk to you about your last set for no more than 2 minutes and then, no more game talk. I take notes about each student in my phone and the instructor team discusses each student before class the next day. We will give on the fly corrections and quick tips right there on the spot, but we will not stand in the corner and discuss the pros and cons of neg theory or if we think Style is better than Tyler Durden in field. ACTION ACTION ACTION BABY!!! Do a bunch of approaches and get a bunch of reference experiences so you will have some REAL questions for class the next day, not theory questions that amount to nothing.
That’s all the time we have today folks. Remember, kids in the dark make accidents, accidents in the dark make kids.
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Another thing I would add is find two good outfits to go out in. I’ve done four bootcamps where guys where a guy showed up in a very outdated outfits.
Good point Hero. Bootcamp is a blast, but people have no idea how exhausting it can be, huh?
-B
hey braddock i really like this post and i do wanna take your bootcamp but i got a lot of inner game issues that i want to deal with first so i want to take your inner game seminar first but i i checked the love systems website and it say when or where the next inner game seminar is taking place