Booing Hot Girls in NYC
I’m sitting in the airport in NYC waiting my flight back to Los Angeles. I just finished up one of the most fun bootcamps I’ve ever been apart of. Awesome instructor team, great students, and we had a writer from the New York Times following us around.
One thing I always push my students to do is to study the tactical stuff but to let all that shit go and just have fun once you get to the bar. The weirdest guys I know and the guys who have the least success with women are the ones who are overly tactical. They don’t have fun, they look like they are at work, and they are so in their head thinking about the logical side of how to approach and meet women they end up creating a weird vibe and getting crushed. When you can blend “some” tactics with a great vibe, good things happen. Women can feel that and they’ll allow more “tactical” mistakes because they will enjoy the interaction.
Also, letting go of the serious tactical aspect of all of this helps remind you not to take any of this to seriously. I get blown out all the time…we all do..but I don’t give a shit. I’m always having fun and because of that, the blowouts mean absolutely nothing to me.
One thing I got from my good friend Calabrese is the idea that, “Where you are….is always the place to be. More specifically…where you are standing.” This doesn’t mean you stand there and pretend to have fun. It means you go out with guys you truly enjoy hanging out with, you stand in a somewhat high traffic area, you open anything that walks by pulling them into the fun you are having and create the fun area of the bar or club. Some girls will stop and have fun with you, some won’t…but no matter what you don’t care. This creates such a good energy. This type of energy is 10 times better than the energy you put off when you are combing the bar like a hunter looking for a deer. Fuck that.
Something we did this weekend that cracked me up was incorporating the “boo.” The instructors and students were having a blast in a bar in NYC, talking to everyone in the place. This really cute British girl walked by and Helicase tried to open her and she just brushed him off. Not sure why I decided to do it, but I started booing her as loud as I could. What cracked me up is INSTANTLY 3 of the students and Calabrese instantly jumped in and booed her like she was Kevin Garnett walking into the Staples Center. Even funnier 3 or 4 random guys who didn’t even know why we were booing (gotta love New Yorkers) instantly started booing with us. This poor girl had half the bar booing her for blowing out Helicase!
She just stopped by her friends who were laughing and turned around blushing and smiling. I walked over to her smiling and said, “Would you like to try this again and play nice this time? This is my friend Helicase.” She was embarrassed and cracking up. I doubt she had ever been booed in a bar. They ended up making out. Ha!
And the boo was born….
From then on we pretty much booed any girl that blew someone out for the rest of the weekend. Sometimes we would boo girls who didn’t blow us out, just because we were on a roll with the booing. I even had a really cute girl come up and grab me smiling and say, “I need to walk that way to meet my friends. You guys aren’t going to boo me are you?” And another girl ask me if we would boo her friend when she came out of the bathroom. HA!
The point is we were having fun and it created a situation that made us laugh and not take talking to girls so serious. It created just what Calabrese says, “Where we are is where the party is.”
That’s all the time we have for today kids. Over and out.
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[...] I’m pimping other instructors’ blogs, I have to single out Braddock’s post on having fun when going out. I try to hammer this point with my students, and I think Braddock’s example of the “Boo” game [...]