01/6/11Filed under: Dating Tips, Pickup

Warning: This is an advanced article. This will make little sense if you are just starting out. Unlike ever before, this is coming straight from the gut, more or less unedited… yet I get the feeling this will be the best article I have ever written.

An interesting thing happened over the weekend.

I’ve been “formally” involved in game for almost a year now – January 25 will mark 1-year from the time I took my bootcamp with Mr. M in Oslo. Those familiar with my story know that since then, I have learned everything there is the learn from the best there is to learn from. I’ve logged well over 400+ hours of seminar time, and many more hours in-field. And those who have been on program with me know that I can teach the living shit out of this stuff.

Yet, I had the biggest “click” I’ve ever had over New Years Eve.

My game hit a plateau it has never before seen, and anyone that was there with me that night can attest to this. My game cruxed on sexuality/dominance like Mr. M, I was teasing and being playful like Braddock, I was diving deeper than I ever thought possible in comfort like Future, and qualifying genuinely like Soul, and hard like Future.

The fact of the matter is that it clicked. It all clicked. It was a level of game I’ve never even come close to operating on before.

Since then, I have been working incessantly to figure out causality.

And truth be told, I realize it all came down to one thing: feeling.

That night, I wanted to meet and have fun with people, when I saw a smoking blonde, I FELT that I wanted her (not because it was the right thing to do, but because I really wanted her). And then when I was talking to her, I FELT that I wanted to get to know her (attraction), I could actually FEEL the tension in the air (sexuality), I wanted to lead, I wanted to be dominant. I FELT truthfully about how attracted to her I was (qualification), I FELT for her background and her “story” (comfort). More than anything else I FELT attractive. And when all that feeling was there, the game poured out like it has never, ever, before.

More than ever before, I wasn’t doing some part of game because it was the right thing to do in the formula that had the highest possible chance of ending up with this girl. Instead, I was doing it because it’s what I FELT like doing and it’s what I WANTED to do.

And you know what? I didn’t play it perfect. Was it bad game? Fuck no. But the strategy was off. I dug deeper into this girl than I’ve ever dug into anyone in such a short period of time… it was as though a bullet train had smacked her across the face. I landed so far in the “date me” category I wouldn’t have been able to make it out in a fighter jet.

But you know what the interesting things was? I knew this, as it was going on, but I didn’t care. I felt like taking it deeper… I wanted to take it as deep as I could go. And interestingly, it went so deep that had logistics worked out (i.e. had we not wandered around for 2+ hours trying to find a consolidated ride home, before eventually parting ways), I am 99% sure I would have banged her. Nonetheless, strategically, this was not the right way to go about it.

That’s completely besides the point though. The point is that I felt, and followed my feelings, and as a result, my game came out in a way it has never before.

I am the definition of learned game. I started in this with a blank canvas last January. Everything I know (aside from general social intuition – which many argue is practically unteachable), I have learned through my developments through Love Systems… and I learned everything this wonderful Company has to offer.

And because of this, I recognize that this is a new frontier. I learned every piece of LS inner/outer game theory there is to learn, I’ve internalized all the perspectives, I’ve read practically every book ever recommended by anyone regarding game or anything even remotely related to it. Yet, the one thing that I was never taught – how to feel – turned out to be the key that fully unlocked everything I have stockpiled over the year.

But how the hell do you teach that… something as visceral and innately elusive as feeling.

I do know one thing: Having your mind work in a way that says “do step 1, step 2, step 3, then step 4, etc…” will teach you the way male/female interactions work, it will even get you laid with some consistency, but it will never bring you anywhere near the peak of where your game, or a true “naturals” game is. Learning funny attraction lines, pocketing a few hard qualifiers, and scripting out a few mastery topics to build conversation upon is the path to learning game. It is not the path to 10 game.

At some point, you have to unhinge the theory, the roadmaps, the models and the teachings from your conscious mind, and you have to wander out with no pre-planned safety net. You have to find the feeling, and act on THAT. Then you have to trust that the game you have learned, the influences you have surrounded yourself with, will naturally seep out by themselves.

Now that is hard on MANY levels.

1.) In order to unhinge yourself from “learned game,” (noun) you need to have learned game (verb).

2.) How do you cultivate that feeling? This is a very different feeling from the feelings of “missed opportunities,” “remorse,” etc… caused by years of not having fun in bars/parties/clubs while everyone else is, that is innate in every Love Systems student. The feeling I’m talking about is the visceral feeling naturals innately have of I WANT that girl, I WANT girls. To the point nothing matters more. Period.

3.) To reach the point where game can sleep in your unconscious, it must have been reiterated into your mind so many times that you can think of male/female interactions in no other way. Moreover, in order for the “proper influences” to naturally seep out based on feelings, you needed to have surrounded yourself with these influences at some point of extended time. Obviously not an easy task for many.

I used to think that the transition from “good game” to 10-game merely had to do with practicing the skillset of Opening/transitioning/attraction/qualification/comfort/logistics/escalation over and over to the point where the neuronettes in your brain had tied together every possible iteration over and over again, to the point where each reaction to each interaction was seamless and accurate.

I thought if you hammered the “attraction phase” enough times over and over that you would eventually reach a point where you could do it on a 10-game level.

False.

Actually, I take that back. This may be a path, but believe me, it must be one long-ardous-near-impossible path. Not nearly as bad as the really old-school Mystery Method path of “learn one Routine/line for every iteration of interaction possible and you’ll have 10-game.” But both paths are flawed.

Old-school Mystery Method path: Game is not like math, you can’t just plug in formulas into equations hoping everything will equalize as long as you have the right “solutions.” And you are not a super-computer, you cannot memorize and execute all these iterations, no matter how smart you are.

Newer practice skillset till perfect path: Game is similar, but not completely like a sport. You can’t just practice your “free-throw” or “jump-shot” everyday and end up in the NBA.

Here’s the key – if you learn game to the point where it’s so much so a part of you, then you shove it into your subconscious and throw away the roadmap, and then find the feeling (the right feeling) which causes your subconscious mind to reach in and pull out the “game,” your game will soar to knock-out levels.

Which brings me back to my original point. Finding the feeling.

And this is something I need time to flesh out. For that reason, I am taking a blog hiatus for at least 1-2 months, if not longer. I need to remove myself from “textbook game theory,” which is what I tend to blog about. This perspective of “game” will be my personal contribution to the community…

Here’s to Game 3.0.

-Sterling

(not even going to edit this thing. enjoy the typos)

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