Dating Tips: Effective Habits Part II by Texas
The Most Effective Habit: Part II
Gents, my last post was an overview of the Discernment gene, a trait dominant in all those you typically think of as an alpha male. Braddock schools you on the internal validation concept in “How to Be an Alpha Male,” a total ‘braingasm’ of an interview if I ever heard one.
But let’s think ‘bout this on a basic level. Think of all the things you want to happen in-set: Women hanging on your every word, an abundance of numbers, dates one text away, sex any night you choose…. and REPLACE THEM WITH THOUGHTS OF YOURSELF. Why? Those things are outta your control. When you don’t see these things happening, you’ll start thinking about what the internet told you to say and she can tell you’re nervous. Seconds later, she’s gone.
Tenet 16: She will thin-slice you based on your vibe.
When DaHunter is in-set, his mind is on nothing more than the facial expressions and conveying a playful message. He can’t control her response, but he knows that when he focuses purely on communicating his message, it gives him the greatest chance of success. When she sees someone who is confident and not waiting on her to respond, she’s drawn into his world. That’s different than most guys.
Remember the model I showed you last time. If she blows you off, shrug and smile. Something’s wrong with her and she’s not ready for the gift you have to offer.
Students often believe the problem lies with the Routines and what they say. It’s never what you actually say; it’s the vibe you give off saying it.
To prove my point, take a look at the same bit delivered by Daniel Tosh earlier in his career:
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And more recently:
What do you notice? The material isn’t altogether that different, but he’s clearly more confident. He’s not seeking a response, not hurried to get to the punchline. He takes his time, focused only on the message he’s sending, and HE LOOKS LIKE HE’S HAVING FUN. Use these stand-up clips to remind yourself why you should focus on the thin-slice you’re sending rather than her reaction.
When you go home after a night out, the only question on your mind should be “What could I have improved?” Does it matter if you got 100 numbers or 0? Does it matter if you are bringing home Eva Mendes or a hairy gremlin? NO. Focus ONLY on that which you can change.
If you feel like approaching is a job, you’re probably giving off the vibe it is a job. If something seems fun in field, do it. Which brings me to:
Tenet #15: What you feel, she feels
Braddock gives an in-depth review of Mirror Neurons in his bootcamp, but just remember you’re a 5 year old in a room with his favorite toys. That’s it. If you go try to play with one of the toys and it’s not fun, move on to the next one.
The nightclub/subway/street/Starbucks is your playroom and you LOVE being there.
When you begin game, don’t think “what do I have to get this girl attracted to me?” Instead, make a specific goal to deliver an opener in a specific way. Practice it at home in front of the mirror. Then go up and do it. Eject and don’t care how she reacts. At the end of the night (not in-set), find 3 ways to tweak it. Do it for 50 sets.
When you are complete satisfied with how you delivered it, move to a cold read. Eject and don’t care how she reacts. At the end of the night (not in-set), find 3 ways to tweak it. Do it for 50 sets. Then add a teasing Routine (or Trigger Words).
This is how you get good fast, by taking it one step at a time with specific goals. Helicase wrote a great blog post detailing this.
The best part? It’s COMPLETELY within your control. Mastering the communication of your message is powerful and has vast implications in job interviews and influencing people in your workplace. I once asked the CEO of a public oil drilling company (who pulls $59 million in salary) what he most credits to his success. His answer: “Confidence. Not due to any result, but for its own sake.” The ability to know what you have control over, and mastering it, is the key to building confidence.
As the basics become second nature, you’ll find the radius of your control slowly expanding. But the basics must come first, so focus on making Opening second nature before you worry about the advanced aspects of attraction, qualification, comfort, and seduction.
Had no idea your sister was that flexible,
-Texas
Great post dude
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