Dating Tips: Interview with Dating Coaches Braddock and Vercetti 1 of 6
In this audio Dating Coaches Braddock and Vercetti took time out to answer various questions posted on the attraction forums. They recorded the question and answer session and compiled a 6 part audio series for all of you to listen to. This video is part 1 of 6, of the Braddock and Vercetti interview.
The first topic that Braddock and Vercetti cover is the ideal personalities or manners guys should have when being successful with women. Dating Coach Vercetti goes on to explain that there is not one type of personality that is ideal, but there are various characteristics that one should have. For example: A guy who is a challenge and has other options with women. Another trait is being comfortable with yourself, meaning you do not seek approval or expose any sort of neediness with women.
Dating Coach Braddock also elaborates on this topic with various tips to embed into your personality. He explains that everyone has a different style, and there is not one model personality to have. Braddock emphasizes that you must develop a personality based on your own style, and not try to mimic anyone because it can lead to incongruence in your character.
Braddock also explains that your personality should adapt to certain people and situations. For example, if Braddock is in New York for only a couple a days, he will become more of a bold, risky, and direct person based on his situation. Braddock explains that you need to find a middle ground of which you are most of the time, and add layers to it while still being congruent. Back to the New York example, Braddock is being bolder, risky, and sexual with women based on his scenario. There are times Braddock will be with his laid back friends for more of a relaxed night and will adapt and expose more of his easy going characteristics. However, he is not changing his personality. He is just adapting to different scenarios while still reflecting who he is as a person.
Vercetti comes back to explain that you must be able to experiment with different situations and girls. This will help you become more flexible and give you the ability to adapt to any situation, while still holding congruence to your personality. Braddock and Vercetti emphasize that the best guys are the guys that have a dynamic personality. Not only is having a well-rounded personality attractive to girls, but also it helps you adapt to different situations. For example, Braddock is an athletic and adventurous guy, but at the same time is well educated and intelligent; this all reflects a dynamic personality. Guys that can do everything and range their personality to be able to adapt to certain situations, moods, and women are the most successful. But at the same time, these guys are staying congruent to their personality so everything comes off as natural. You should not mimic someone and try to model your style after them, but use your own ideal style and add layers to it where you can adapt to certain situations.
Braddock and Vercetti state that when creating your personality; make sure only YOU create it. Some people may feel like they are obligated to be someone they are not based on certain situations and the expectations of others. If you do this, your personality will end up unnatural and hurt your future situations. Use your true identity and add different dimensions to it that will allow you to adapt to various situations and people. But make sure your dimensions are still congruent to who you are as a person in order to come off naturally.
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Good stuff. I like the idea of knowing your self/center and knowing your boundaries, but still being able to adjust to the situation.