Dating Tips: Interview with Dating Coaches Braddock and Vercetti 5 of 6
In this video you will find
• The power of a Social Circle and the reality of cold approach
• A continuation on how to properly view women
• The reality of getting good with women
• Advice on how to get into a Social Circle without being threatening
Some guys get incredibly jealous of other men at the clubs who have lots of women fawning
around them. They incorrectly assume that those guys have met those women through cold
approach. Cold approach is the hardest way to approach women, and is also the most fun way.
However, the guy that has the hottest women in the club next to him probably met her through a
social circle, had some value established, dated some other girls, and over time had her build him up in her mind. When the timing was right, those two probably dated and now she thinks he’s a superhero.
Don’t put yourself beneath this guy. Yes, he’s done Social Circle Mastery well and there are tons
of guys who have exceptional game that don’t the hottest girls. On the other hand, there are lots
of guys who date the hottest girls because they have adequate game and are able to crack into
social circles. Focusing on cold approach forever causes your return on investment to eventually
hit a threshold. When that happens, you must start to build a social circle.
As mentioned in the previous post, it is so vital to take women off the pedestal. They’re just
see women and too many times guys constantly build up women in their head. Once you’re
able to attract and date that woman, then you start to see how you’ve built them up in your mind
and how they’re a human being. The funny thing is that the concepts Love Systems teaches are
meant to attract the hottest women, yet so many guys deviate from these concepts when dealing
with exceptionally gorgeous women. A woman is just a woman, and she’s just a human being
like the rest of us!
A lot of men also have an unrealistic view on how things will go when they get really good at
attracting women. Even the best such as Dating Coach Braddock go through highs, lows, and
plateaus. There will be times you can walk in and get any girl for months at a time. And then
there are times where you plateau and have to remind yourself to clean things up.
On the other hand, some guys who are tall and good-looking wonder how they should show
guys in a new Social Circle that they’re non-threatening. Many guys try to be the alpha male and
dominate the room. Don’t do this! In a social circle, it’s necessary to ramp up value over time
as opposed to establishing value in the first interaction. In addition, watch the room because
each Social Circle has its own culture. Take it easy and be laid back. Of course, don’t be a pussy,
but get to know people, compliment them genuinely, and find commonalities. In addition,
don’t tease people really hard, and don’t over inject unless you connect well with that person.
Remember, it’s important to build the relationships first and value second. Cultivate relationships
with each individual member, as opposed to trying to run the group. Coincidentally, when you
cultivate relationships, you’ll probably rise to near the top in the social group.
Some guys question how can they build relationships if they don’t have huge value? The idea is
to bring the fun – light fun. There’ no need to be the center of attention, but blend with everyone.
In essence, be the social butterfly, have good conversations with the other people, and be
pleasant to be around. There’s no need to stand out, as it’s more about how you fit in and vibe
with the rest of the people. As you would guess, conversation skills are very important!
Here are some other thoughts to keep in mind: Think of everyone as your equal, and give a lot
of respect as well as expect a lot of respect. Don’t get needy, but be patient and let the people in
the group slowly accept you over time. One important tip is to use the person that brought you
in the Social Circle as the gatekeeper. In the beginning when you hang out with the group, that
individual should be there to serve as the buffer. This will help you get to know the other people
in the social group more naturally and fluidly.
What did you think about this Post? Leave me a comment below
Like this post with Dating Coach Braddock and Vercetti? Check these out…
Braddock and Vercetti Interview Part 1
Braddock and Vercetti Interview Part 2
awesome advice Braddock! I’m liking how you’re updating everything pretty consistently these days.
Building individual relationships with each person will make you a pillar in the social circle. excellent point. Keep it up man!
SL
nice post, i like when you guys talked about the goals to have
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