Why You Don’t Have Advanced Game…Yet by Dating Coach Nick Hoss 2 of 5
ACT FROM A PLACE OF “SHE LIKES ME”
If you’ve dated a lot of average women or women who don’t have abundance in their lives, you’ll know that powerful feeling of being able to get away with pretty much anything. She’s running late, so you text her, “Where are you?” and don’t worry about looking needy; you’re not afraid of looking needy because you know it won’t affect your value. You call the shots and don’t fear the repercussions. If repercussions happen, you know you can handle them on the fly. This is because you have abundance with the average woman/person you meet. You expect people to treat you as a money guy, so your actions manifest as those of a money guy, putting yourself first and bringing others along for the journey.
This belief leads you to be more affirmative in your choices and to be more confident in getting what you desire. If you ever are on the fence about asking her to do something, you just do it. Swoosh!
When all the Dating Tips you’ve read start to make more sense and you reach that tipping point of getting advanced game, you’ll likely have the inherent value and lifestyle to match your skills, which means that you’ll likely gain more from expecting success rather than hesitating in your actions or not risking failure at all. You’ll have attractive qualities so engrained within you that you will always be coming from an attractive place, and this paints an attractive hue on top of your actions.
Getting her number:
Woman: I’m having a lot of fun while I’m here, but I only have another week left in the city.
50% Nick: Do you want me to take your number?
Woman: Well, do you want it?
50% Nick: I asked you first. *Thinking he’s alpha and non-needy
Woman: Well, do you want it or not?
50% Nick: *Frame lost *Attraction depleting
Woman: I’m having a lot of fun while I’m here, but I only have another week left in the city.
100% Nick: That’s it? Then we have to hit up a club before you go. What’s your number?
Woman: Definitely. It’s 1-900…
Does that sound too easy? As I read it, it does, but when you get slotted in that 9 and 10 dude category after talking to a woman for 20 minutes, it won’t make sense for you to dance around the number.
“Why did he just talk to me for twenty minutes and then be a pussy about asking for my number? I wanted him to take it. Didn’t he see that?”
The 9 and 10 guys out there aren’t 9 and 10 guys because they pussyfoot around what they want. When you are seen as a strong man, your actions come across as strong. Perception is reality.
Going for a kiss:
50% Nick: Do you want me to kiss you?
Woman: I dunno, maybe… I don’t know. (Translation: Yes, I’ve been thinking about it. I just don’t want you to be an awkward pussy about it and blow this whole thing up.)
50% Nick: I didn’t say I was going to. You just looked like you had something on your mind.
Woman: *Thinks that was an odd thing to say.
If a woman is sufficiently attracted to you, this question can work quite often with the average woman. She thinks your value is so high that you’d really have to fuck up not to get the kiss. This dating tip itself is not a trick to get a kiss, but rather it’s a tool for a guy who doesn’t have the experience to know when she is ready to be kissed or for the guy who is too scared to just go for it (usually due to a lack of experience). If you have the experience and have been talking to her for twenty minutes as a cool guy, it doesn’t align for you to be weary of the kiss. Asking this question will be over-gaming.
75% Nick: Quit looking me like that or I’m going to try to make out with you.
Woman: Like what? *giggles
75% Nick: Oh look, you’re doing it again. Now I have to kiss you. *Pulls her in.
She may go for it, she may not. If you have the value, you’ll get it.
Woman: [Blah, blah, comfort talk]
100% Nick: You’re adorable. Come here. *Pulls her in and makes out
Even if she rejects you here, your frame is: “That’s cute. She wants to play innocent with me because she is so attracted to me. I got this.” You’re inherent value as a cool guy renders her objection/acceptance immaterial. She becomes more attracted you because it doesn’t even phase you to be rejected, meaning you’ve clearly done it before and succeeded, meaning you’ve succeeded with girls YOU deem to be of her caliber. This puts you in a position of higher value/the selector because you’re providing proof that you’re unafraid of what a woman of her caliber thinks. If you cared or were tentative, your value would lower and you’d be less attractive to her, appearing as though you don’t have experience with women of her caliber.
This is an important dating tip: As a real man this is how it should be; a woman wants the kind of guy who goes for it. Going for the kiss, getting rejected and handling it, is a roundabout way of being more attractive. (I’m assuming if you’re going to do this you are calibrated enough to know when the right time to do it.)
Nick Hoss is one of the few instructors who teaches Day and Night Game. To read more from him, check out his blog, www.nickhoss.com. He is also active on Twitter, @LS_NickHoss.
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Good stuff, I like the reminder of being strong in your frame.
That is true because this past weekend that exact scenario happened to me except I didn’t go for the K-close. For sure the next time I will
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