Dating Tips on How to get Advanced Gam by Dating Coach Nick Hoss 3 of 5
CALM DOWN
This was a big one for me. Once you use our Dating Tips to trigger attraction through being high energy, you realize that spiking buying temperature is a quick and efficient way to get her hooked. This isn’t inherently bad in the first minute or two, but you have to shift gears and become real at a certain point.
Think about it. Does a guy who has women fall into his lap feel the need to perform for women when he is talking to them? No, he leans back and reels them, jerking the line once in a while so the hook sinks. Pulling too hard will snap the line when a big catch is on it.
If you get girls asking you, “Wait, are you gay?” or if you find that they are laughing head over heels at you but they aren’t interested in you as a man, you need to slow down your speech and movements. Levitra online Operate from a centered place. You know that stereotypically smooth guy that leans back against the bar all night? Try to be him a little when you are locked in set. This is an important dating tip. Believe that your presence (i.e. centered masculinity) should be enough to get her interested, and if she doesn’t get interested she is just playing hard to get. Know that you know her charade and she will love you for it in about 10 minutes.
Your subcommunications should be so strong that you can literally engage a woman from 10 feet away with a certain look—not that it will work every time, but you should have that capability. If you put out a solid thin slice, proper subcommunications and have pre-selection built in throughout the night, she’ll likely WANT to meet you. She may have even walked past because she wanted you to notice her. All of your attraction is in place already. You just have to go for her.
The ultimate test is walking up to a woman and just saying, “Hi, I’m _____. Nice to meet you,” as if you expect that everybody would love to meet you. A lot of this lies in subcommunications and if you aren’t on-the-level, you won’t be able to fake your way through it. Your outer game is a reflection of your Inner Game.
During the Day
This one applies during the day especially. Most guys try to weave a connection through mastery topics (which is the correct idea), but their reactions to the woman’s answer are often too overzealous.
50% Nick: I love your style. It really gives you this artistic vibe. You must be a creative person.
Woman: You could say that. I have this idea to write a children’s book.
50% Nick: WOW! That’s so cool. I was actually an English major in school. It’s so rare to meet somebody with a similar interest.
Woman: I know, but actually I really have to get going. Nice meeting you. *Thinks: This guy must not meet that many people. He’s REALLY excited.
An inherently cool guy will not get this excited over meeting a stranger. He may hint that he likes what hears, just enough so he gives her some thread to unravel more conversation, but if he throws the whole ball of yarn at her (heavy qualification over a minor detail) the challenge is gone, the qualification is lost and his status slides into the gutter. You want to communicate that she is unique and special, but if you layer that heave after a one-line answer by her, it communicates that it actually is rare for you to meet a cool woman, as if you aren’t cool enough to have that capability.
100% Nick: I love your style. It really gives you this artistic vibe. You must be a creative person.
Woman: You could say that. I have this idea to write a children’s book.
100% Nick: Oh ya? I’ve thought about writing a book too. Tell me your idea. *Still not totally won over.
Woman: It’s kind of silly (*self-conscious, putting herself out there) but [long, rarely told tale about her true ambitions]
100% Nick: See that’s interesting. I used to be an English major, so most of the people I’d meet have that one special story idea, but they never have a plan or do anything about it. I bet you’ll write a pretty good story. You really are creative. It’s kind of ironic that I noticed that when I stopped you.
Woman: So what do you want to write? *Investing in the conversation.
In the context of this example, the guy isn’t totally won over a first blush. He has depth to his standards. Through his tone and layering of his qualification, he is not trying to show that he is “high value” but rather that he has seen this song and dance before and wants to see if she is legit. He meets people of her quality all of the time, meaning he is on her level. The qualification is inherent to a man of his character.
It’s no different than a reverse of the old cliché where a Hollywood guy walks up to a woman in a bar and says he’s a producer, only to have her ask what movies he’s made. “Well, nothing yet, but I do have X, Y and Z in mind,” which means he’s not a real producer. One of the most important Dating Tips I can give you is that you should adopt the mentality of how high-value women screen men.
This frame will well if you use it on girls who say they are “models” when they really haven’t done anything with their careers yet. You are communicating that you know understand their world and that means that you are of equal value. (“Know that you know her charade and she will love you for it” from above.)
100% Nick: So what do you do in Hollywood, you know, besides partying?
Girl: I do some work in advertising.
100% Nick: Oh, I see, advertising… Are you advertising on covers or are you still trying to make it?
Girl: Well, actually, I just moved down here, so, like, I’m just going to a lot of castings.
100% Nick: I can relate to that. When I was younger [story of trial, tribulation and dreams coming to fruition.]… *Doesn’t stomp on her dreams, or tease because that would frame him as a dick. Instead builds her up and relates to bring good emotions (building attraction).
By merely using a frame of qualification that she characteristically uses, you already communicate that you are on her level.
Nick Hoss is one of the few instructors who teaches Day and Night Game. To read more from him, check out his blog, www.nickhoss.com. He is also active on Twitter, @LS_NickHoss.
To book a 1on1 with Dating Coach Nick Hoss: Email him at Nick.Hoss@lovesystems.com
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I like how he uses the 50% and 100% examples because that is a good way for myself to know when I’m progressing since I did the 50% example before lol
“Your subcommunications should be so strong that you can literally engage a woman from 10 feet away with a certain look—not that it will work every time, but you should have that capability.”
Good stuff, I definitely got to work on this.
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