07/26/11Filed under: Dating Tips, Interviews, Pickup

Dating Coach Braddock continues to elaborate on mistakes with building deep rapport. He explains that a common mistake that is made is going into comfort at the wrong time. For example, he mentions examples of how many guys will build heavy attraction and then go straight into deep rapport. He also mentions that even when you are going to build deep rapport, don’t forget to go back and tease, be playful, escalate, and give her a compliment. This is important because if you don’t go back and tease or be playful, you will turn into a soft guy who can’t have fun.

 

Dating Coach Vercetti mentions that if you get into deep rapport with a woman it can scare them. They may get into it, and then never want to go back into such a state like deep rapport. A great example Vercetti mentions is that if you jump too early into deep rapport, it can be like a session with a psychologist. Such meetings are straight deep rapport with no teasing and playfulness. Think of that with a woman, would she want to keep having psychiatric sessions with you? NO. You must be able to take her out of deep rapport at times. Braddock mentions examples of how he had deep rapport with girls and was wondering why it failed, and then realized the deep rapport was overkill. Braddock mentions that the more you interact with deep rapport, you can eventually learn how to gauge the conversation. You will spot out points that will tell you change topics, whether you are going too deep, etc. It is important to award the girl in deep rapport; for example some girls will be shocked and surprised that they are revealing so much information and you must let her know that it is cool that she is doing it, and make her feel comfortable and reward her for Opening up. It is important to not go too far with rewarding her; you cannot reward her for every single thing she says.

 

Another question mentioned: What are the signs that she is investing when you are using deep rapport?

 

Braddock states that the main sign would be that she is playing back and getting lost in the topic and going along with it. Vercetti mentions that there is some sort of comfort, and that there is more openness with going deep. Vercetti mentions that when you feel understood as well as her, there is more ease in going deep and more comfort in the interaction. An example used is when you are in traffic and you have road rage. One person will laugh at you, and the other will try to calm you down. The person who is silent understands you knows what you are going through. The person that tries to calm you makes you feel misunderstood.

 

Braddock mentions a question: How do you know when you are in deep rapport?

 

Braddock mentions that you must ping for it. For example, ask her a qualification question, then ask her why she picked her answer, etc. If she gives a dull answer, that is a ping to not elaborate more on the topic. If she shows more enthusiasm and gets deep with the answer, than you can engage more into deep rapport. If you ask deep and random questions without any gauge, it can weird her out. A way to practice deep rapport is to play the question game. The question game allows you to ask a range of all questions, and you will be able to see how girls react. All you have to do is ask a question and then she asks you a question. The rules are that you cannot ask boring questions and that you have to tell the truth. The benefit of the game is that it wont be awkward to ask deep rapport questions because it is all under the rules of the game. The game also allows you to gauge according to her answers, and then you can relate to the question and follow-up.

 

 

 

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