07/28/11Filed under: Dating Tips, Interviews, Pickup

Dating Coach Vercetti continues to discuss the topic of physical escalation. If the women is not shying away from touch and the touching is more prolonged, it is an indicator that she is comfortable with you and that there is a deep level of comfort built.

The next question mentioned is: What are the 3 biggest mistakes using deep rapport?
Dating Coaches Braddock and Vercetti covered a lot of these in the beginning of the audio series. Braddock mentions that you cannot use deep rapport as a way to simply just bombard her with questions. Deep rapport must be used to relate to her, and it is your chance to show her who you are. Deep rapport is the time that you reveal to girls the characteristics and things that you wish people knew about you. Braddock mentions that you can never try to brag about your answers or try to act better than her. Deep rapport is to show that you have commonalities, on a spiritual and emotional level.

Braddock mentions to be careful with deep rapport. When building deep rapport, there is potential that you can really like the girl and build an extremely strong connection. In deep rapport you can hurt the girl, but at the same time it can backfire at you as well and you can be hurt by it.

The last question that is brought up: How would you emotionally talk about her passions in a way that shows you understand her world?

This goes back to earlier. Braddock mentions a way to do this is to show your ability to understand her.

Vercetti states that you must see the best in them. Vercetti mentions that he loves to dig down deep and see the potential in people, and see what they are really about. For example, if Vercetti sees character traits in a woman that are exceptional, he would show that he appreciates it and let her know. It is kind of like showing his understanding and giving her acknowledgement for her accomplishments and desires. Braddock mentions it is like you find the inner character that she doesn’t even know she has, and you show her. Deep Rapport is real and cannot be bullshitted. If you fake it, you can look like a creep or end up in the friend zone. You must dig down inside of her and connect the dots and show that you are genuine.

One thing Braddock may mention after deep rapport is saying something like “ When I first met you I thought you were gorgeous and had to talk to you, but I really just thought it would go there. I’m pleasantly surprised you are a very cool girl.” If you give compliments like that it will solidify the interaction. If you make compliments based on the things you learned about her, it can make a huge impact. If you give a few well-timed and deep compliments, it can move her in a very emotional way.

Vercetti mentions that even as he and Braddock talked about the topic, he can feel how heavy it is. They both never really made a joke the whole time, so it shows how deep the topic is. Vercetti mentions if you want someone to go deeper, you must go deep, break out, and then go back in. If you try to go deep all at once, it will stop at some point; You must cycle, and give and take, and eventually you can get to a deep comfort level. As you go deep, you must gauge it: You must go deep, but every now and then throw a tease and be playful. You must time these correctly and say it when you see openings, you cannot tease her after a deep topic she brought up. You must go deep but always remember to throw in teases and playfulness at the right time.

 

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