Dating Tips For Men: Role Playing to Build Attraction by Neverender
Dating Tips For Men: Role plays
Role plays are an awesome way to build attraction. They bring a unique dynamic to any interaction that separates you from the average guy, they bring the girl good and exciting emotions, fun roleplays will bump your own state while in set, and they can even help build comfort. If you ever run out of things to say you can always initiate a roleplay to bring new content to the conversation. At an advanced level, Braddock teaches that you can even begin to qualify a girl under the veil of a roleplay which is pretty awesome.
I wanted to address some common dating tips for men who are just starting to use roleplays might need help on. I remember when I was getting started with using roleplays it took me a decent amount of time to figure all these things out, so hopefully I’ll be saving you guys some time with these tips.
How and when do I introduce a roleplay?
In most cases, a roleplay can be introduced into the interaction very early. I’ll find myself transitioning into roleplays very very quickly. For example, I may have been only talking to this girl in the example below for 30 seconds before jumping into this roleplay:
Neverender: Where are you from Ashley?
Ashley: I’m from Melbourne
Neverender: Sweet. Australian accents are like my kryptonite. Lets get married. Can you cook?
You’ll notice that in the example above I’m introducing the roleplay over something insignificant. This is usually the way it works. Its important to keep all of your roleplays playful and fun. Never take roleplays too seriously. She should always know you are just joking around with her, and the fun vibe is going to be what encourages her to play along.
What should I roleplay about?
There are an infinite number of things you can roleplay on. Here are some things that come to mind for me when I think of roleplays I’ve done or have heard instructors do:
-Marriage/divorce
-Assembling a team for a bank robbery
-I’m a stripper roleplay
-Adopting girl as little sister
-Wrapping a girl in bubble wrap and sending her somewhere exotic where you will do some crazy adventure together
- I’m a virgin/Momma’s boy
What do I do if she doesn’t play along in the roleplay when I introduce it?
I think guys make the major mistake of limping in with roleplays, and then totally giving up when she doesn’t instantly start playing along with the roleplay after one line. Remember that when you are doing a roleplay, its going to be your responsibility to paint the picture of the roleplay with fun and ridiculous details until she is ready to play along. Especially if you are introducing the roleplay early on in the interaction, its going to take a little more work on your part to build up the roleplay before she jumps in.
For example:
Neverender: Where are you from?
Girl: Melbourne
Neverender: Sweet Australian accents are like my kryptonite. Lets get married. Can you cook?
Girl: Wait what?
Neverender: Look, we’ve been dating for like what 2 minutes. Lets just makes this thing official. I’ll take you back to California to meet my parents next weekend.
Girl: Lol Awesome! Do you think they will like me?
Neverender: (She’s wearing a slutty devil costume because its Halloween this week) Definitely! Just make sure to wear what you’re wearing when you come over to meet my mom. I think it says “I’m classy, but I also know how to have a good time.” She’ll love it.
Girl: OMG SHUT UP
The more fun details you map out for the girl, the easier and more fun it will be for her to jump into the roleplay with you. There will be occasions where the girl just isn’t introduced in roleplaying with you on something, in which case just move off it and find something different to banter about.
How long do I keep up with the roleplay?
You always want to get off the roleplay at its peak. When you feel like the roleplay is going to start losing momentum if you continue, get off it immediately and return to normal conversation.
HOWEVER, especially if she was really into the roleplay when you started it, make sure recall the roleplay later in the interation. This will build even more attraction, and also build comfort as she feels like she has this inside joke you and her share.
So picking up from the example from above, lets say we have returned to normal conversation for 5-10 minutes and I can sense now would be a good time to recall the marriage roleplay from earlier.
Random normal conversation about football….
Neverender: Who’s you’re favorite team?
Girl: I love the Cowboys
Neverender: Wow um… I don’t know what to say Wifey… I’m just not sure this relationship is working for me anymore. I’m an Eagles fan, and the Cowboys represent all that is evil in the world.
Girl: OMG NO! I think you’re right hubby this isn’t going to work.
Neverender: Alright let’s divorce. You take the kids, I’ll take the puppy.
*Note: Its important to note I’m divorcing the girl over something arbitrary. Remember roleplays are always fun and playful.
You can also recall roleplays and use them as callback humor when you talk to the girl over phone and text. Here’s an example from my text messages where a roleplay a girl and I started the night we first met is being recalled:
Roleplaying is really simple, and you will find yourself getting comfortable making up these silly scenarios with girls very quickly as you start to use them in field. It will lead to huge improvements to the energy and fun in your interactions as you begin to start using these properly.
Hope this helps guys. Feel free to leave questions in the comments section for more dating tips for men.
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this is awesome!! stuff!!
new concepts i’ve never heard of before
my favourite part is the specific conversation examples you give because it solidifies the concepts.
Question……how would one take what she just said (using her nouns, using her trigger words) and create organic role-plays (role-plays that ARE RELATED to what she just said) instead of forced role plays (forced role plays that ARE NOT RELATED to what she just said)?…..examples?
the reason i’m asking the question is because I do day game and in day game
I think one needs to sound as organic & natural as possible instead of forced conversations. I would agree though that in night game you can force things up to the extreme and get away with it, but in day game like sinn said….it’s a test to see how normal you are.
Great article! Also a really cool attraction roleplay is online via FB once you have met the girl. This is straight out of the routines manual and I think its Braddocks. Copy and pasted below.
I think we should fly to Vegas and pull a B-Spears. We’ll get married in the 24 hour chapel of love by a black Elvis Midget. We’ll have to use the drive thru…im not made of money.You can wear something nice and elegant and I’ll wear my tux printed T shirt…something that says I’m formal but i like to party.Then we can have the most gorgeous kids the world has ever seen then sell them off to Brad and Angie
I usually follow up with the response below if the response is good to keep the momentum going which is in a nutshell qualification to my understanding but please give me advice or corrections.
I’ve decided that were not sellling them to Bradgelina anymore…were flogging them off to Madonna…the pound is stronger than the dollar. Then we can live our dream and open up our hot dog stand in the greek isles…youll run it and ill supervise..do you look good in a toga??
From here I go into the questions game. This is money!!
Great post Neverender.
Youre doing a great job on Braddocks Blog.
Roleplay its a Huge tool of bulding attraction(subcommunicate : humor and social inteligence – two attraction switches ).
I realy loved your examples, and the phonegame extract.
Roleplays can also help you to sexualizate(using sexual oops level 1), and also for some physical scalation and logistical progression.
Obs: A roleplay that i use is to “fake” being a Priest.
Thanks Guys!
Ben- I definitely get what you are saying. You will naturally get better at smoothly slotting all kinds of roleplays right off the top of your head as you go out more into field with the focus of improving your roleplay skills.
In day game, however, I don’t really use very many roleplays. Because day game doesn’t take place in a crazy state bumping enviornment like a night club, the frame of day game interactions is more romantic and low key. Marrying and divorcing a girl because the sex was bad or saying you are a male stripper just isn’t as appropriate during the day as it is at night.
Additionally, Its important to note than in a day game approach A TON of the attraction work is already done for you right off the bat. Since simply approaching a woman in the day with confidence is SO POWERFUL, there really isn’t much of a need to do things like roleplays or teasing. Once a day game approach opener lands, the rest of the interaction can be largely focused on qualification and comfort type stuff. I’ll slot some light roleplays and teases every once in a while, but its always low key and with the intention of coming off as charming more so than being unique to other guys or showing willingness to take conversational risk.
For example, I approached a girl yesterday at Whole Foods. She mentioned she didn’t have a permanent home right now as she travels a lot. After we exchanged numbers and timebridged, I shook her hand and said “Well Dana you are probably the cutest homeless person I have ever met. I’m glad I talked to you.” with a really friendly/charming smile on my face. (Important to note I told her how much I respected that she traveled and related to it, so its 100% clear to her that I’m only being charming here)
Hope this helps
Tyrone- LOL love the pound is stronger than the dollar thing, and the hot dog stand future projection is hilarious.
As long as you are throwing in normal conversation during your interactions in between the attraction spikes you are using with the roleplay that shit is awesome. Also make sure you are giving her a chance to join in on the roleplay with you. Give her the chance to contribute, and reward her for it.
Great stuff!!!