Using a Journal to Increase Your Dating Skills With Woman Fast by Neverender
Ahoy!
In my last post I emphasized that recording your nights out in a journal is one of the best exercises you can do to improve your game fast. I wanted to take an excerpt from my in-field journal and copy it onto the blog to illustrate how I’m presently keeping track of my nights out. The stuff I have recorded in the actual journal will be in normal font, and I’ll put commentary I added for you guys in red.
As I mentioned in the last post, I’m focusing mainly on my physical escalation and subcommunications right now. Recording that kind of stuff is obviously difficult, but I can feel as I write in the journal my subconscious mind starting to get a clearer grasp on what I’m trying to achieve. Ultimately, with anything in game you want to get to the point where everything you are doing is completely natural and driven by the subconscious. Anyways, enjoy.
Saturday 10/13/12
Club: XS
Goals:
- Focus on strong subcommunications and pushing physically. Remember the sexual tension is built from the physical push/pull more than the verbal.
- Consciously focus on traffic lights when in set. When it’s a green light- GO!
Remember the more specific the goals the better. In my case, I could even go as specific in my goal settings as ‘I’m going to do 5 back turns tonight’ or ‘I am going to bring a girl in close like I might kiss her and then push her off me 3 times tonight’.
In this case, I wanted to avoid making my subcommunications and physical escalation too mechanical by counting how many times I was backturning a girl or whatever. I’m really trying to work towards making my physical escalation fast and aggressive, but at the same time very smooth. I’m concerned too specific of goals with physical escalation could lead to my movements being clunky.
HOWEVER, If you are working on something like opening, I definitely recommend being more specific about your goals. Set goals like ‘I’m going to use each of my 3 openers 5 times tonight.’ When I was working on opening I would have a notepad document opened up on my phone and I would put a check mark for every time I used each opener until I reached my goal for the night.
Highlights: 1 Makeout, 1 Strong number close with hb8 Jxxxx, 1 invite back to girls table
As I emphasized in the last post, its important not to be outcome oriented. I mainly write the highlight section just for the sake of making it easier for me to know what the post is about when I look back on it a long time from now. AGAIN, don’t keep track of outcomes like this as a way of measuring your improvement.
Things that worked/I did well
I use a bunch of terminology in these sections below that might not be understood by everyone. In time, we will cover all kinds of different subjects so if you don’t know what I’m talking about below don’t worry about it. I’m posting this stuff simply to provide an illustration to you guys of ways you can record your nights out.
-Did a good job of quickly progressing through sexual hoops, and pushing physically when I noticed that I was pulling too much with my body language. I think I really need to focus on finding comfortable neutral body language though where I’m not pulling or pushing. Having a strong neutral baseline will give the physical push/pull greater potency when I spike it.
-Found the hottest girl in the club and opened her
This is a really important goal I got from Braddock. My inner game has gotten so much stronger that now in my head I’m starting to believe more and more I have a shot with the hottest girl in the club no matter what, but even if your inngergames not there yet I recommend working up the courage to hit on the hottest girl in the club always.
-‘Where the fuck are you going’ opener has gotten 100x more effective since making body language adjustments. Awesome to see how much I’ve improved with opening moving sets.
My favorite opener on a moving set “Where the fuck are you going? Were you just going to walk by and not say hi?” – Credit Daxx
-Did a good job timebridging with the phone number I took. Really cool chick and we were both on it.
My schedule makes it hard to do a lot of dates and day 2s, and I’m not looking for a girlfriend at the moment so I don’t take very many numbers when I go out. When you do take a number, however, remember to build a timebridge before taking the number. A timebridge is when you make a future plan with the girl that indicates to her that you are taking her number with a purpose. Don’t just exchange numbers with a girl randomly with no reason behind it.
If you are working on getting numbers and going out on dates, set a goal that you will do X timebridge every time before exchanging numbers with a girl. If you aren’t timebridging, start doing it and you will see your flake rate reduce dramatically. We will definitely talk a lot more about phone and text game in the future. In the meantime, check out The Ultimate Guide to Phone and Text Game!
Things that didn’t work well/ Want to work on
Don’t get shaken when you move into a sexual hoop and aren’t given a green light right away. Take a step back into the previous hoop and start over.
REMEMBER TO CONCIOUSLY EVALUATE IF A GIRL IS A GREEN YELLOW OR RED—didn’t do this at all tonight
Find that neutral body language and keep focusing on calibrating when to push and when to pull physically.
Work on teases and roleplays tailored to girls who are local
Questions
I seem to be losing momentum when a girl invites me back to her table. It has happened a few times now. Why is this?—It definitely could be that I’m not locking in once we get to the table. Looking back, the girl and I have never gotten seated. Standing by the table instead of taking a seat could be the problem. What’s the best way to lock in when a girl invites me to HER table?
When I have questions I can’t figure out the answers to, I’ll usually do the following:
1. Find an article written by a credible source on the subject I need help on
2. Post on the lounge or the attraction forums and get feedback from an instructor
3. Look into Lovesystems products for help (magic bullets, audio series, social circle mastery dvds, etc)
Inner game post coming Thursday!
-Neverender
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Thanks for the post man! it’s great to see an actual example.
Great post,I’m doing this but I need to do it more frequently.
Great post man!
Just one question: what about the subcommunications? what are those and how do you work on them?
Thanks a lot and keep going!
Thanks guys. Its awesome to hear you are finding this stuff helpful!
Mike- subcommunications are what you are communicating to someone beyond the words coming out of your mouth. Things like your tonality, your pacing, the way yout stand, the way you touch a girl, and your eye contact are all aspects of your subcommunications.
The more you go out and the more comfortable you get interacting with women, the more your subcommunications will naturally start to align with the subcommunications given off by an attractive male. This takes time though, and its difficult to focus on your subcommunications when your mind is working hard just to figure out what to say next. This is why most instructors recommend not thinking too much about this kind of stuff to start with. Try to be aware that you are speaking clearly and standing confidently, but don’t overwhelm yourself when you are still having to put conscious efort into the words coming out of your mouth.