Austin Texas Bootamp….
This sums up Texas. Love doing Austin Bootcamps so much. Besides Stockholm…I would say Austin Texas has the hottest girls on the planet. The students killed it tonight…..
-B
Phone and Text Game Book
The phone and text game is coming out in 2 days….
Wow. I’m so glad this book is coming out. I’m really proud of this book. I feel like this book is pretty ground breaking and goes well beyond phone and text game. I spent over a year writing this book and breaking down the concepts. This book will help you on so many levels. The people who have read this book looked at me like I was crazy because I put in so much stuff that has very little to do with phone and text game. I did this because I wanted it to be all encompassing. I hate when I buy a book and it leaves massive knowledge gaps.
I feel like most of the products on the market, with a few exceptions, are simply written with the goal of making money in mind. They are not written to truly teach. This book, as well as all of my seminars, are always born out of my love for teaching.
Here is a link to the new phone and text game book
-Braddock
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Phone and Text Game Book Launch
Phone and Text Game Conference Call
Hey guys,
Tomorrow at 6pm (Pacific Time), Savoy and I are doing a conference call on Phone and Text Game. This is the last one we will do so I suggest you sign up. You can sign up here.
Phone and text game is one of the most important phases of the game. I realized this the hard way. I went out and mastered every facet of approaching women and building attraction, yet I would lose countless amazing women by making drastic mistakes with phone and text game. Sometimes I would over text or call to much. Sometimes I would try to be overly funny when I should have just chilled out and invited her over.
Phone and text game can be one of the most frustrating pieces of talking to women. You quickly realize that building attraction or even making out with a woman does not mean she will see you again. I can’t tell you how many times I went out and got 5 or more numbers in a night just to have none of them call or text me back. So frustrating.
If you are meeting more than 70% of the women you date through cold approach, then you are likely frustrated as hell by how many women you lose through phone and text. Meeting women through your social circle comes with its own set of problems, but cold approach can make you feel like you are going crazy. You have to change your mindset. While some of the mistakes are definitely yours, cold approach creates a level of flakiness that will make you feel terrible inside. You think you have a connection, just to have a women consistently go cold when you text or call.
Just like learning to build attraction is a skill set that takes time, phone and text game is a skill that takes time. The book I just wrote won’t fix you over night, but it will give you a framework to build a strong skill set from. The book is full of do’s and dont’s and examples. It will take time for you to develop a style that fits you, but the book will show you what you are doing wrong.
When you read the book, don’t read it hoping for magic lines that get the girl to come over. It’s not that kind of book. Read it hoping to make sense of the mistakes you are currently making. Look at it for places you could make changes.
Tomorrow we will answer more of your questions. I know Savoy only reserved a certain amount of spots so make sure you at least go over and reserve a spot so you can listen in.
I look forward to talking to you guys tomorrow,
-Braddock
Sign up here: Phone and Text Game Conference Call
Group one on one at the Playboy Mansion
One of the most fun workshops of 2009 was helping Savoy at the fist Playboy Mansion. Seeing the Playboy Mansion is cool in its self, but from a workshop perspective it’s easily the most fun. I’ve been to a million clubs all over the world and I’ve never seen that many hot girls in one location.
Starlight is doing a group 1 on 1 at the Playboy Mansion. If you have been thinking about doing a one on one, this is probably about as good of an opportunity as you are going to come across. Another good thing about this group one on one, is that it will likely turn into an army of instructors helping you out, because everyone is dying to go to the Playboy Mansion. That’s rare for a one on one.
Don’t miss this!
-B
Love Systems Inner Game Seminar
Inner Game
Guys,
I posted the reviews below because I want the seminar to speak for itself. The inner game seminar is the most important work of my 20’s. In concert with the developments Mr. M and I made in Social Circle Mastery, this seminar will definitely be one of the proudest achievements of my life. This seminar is full of tools that every man should know and if I ever have a son, this is exactly what I will teach him when I feel he is ready and mature enough. I will teach him what it means to be a man that naturally attracts women, stand with true unwavering confidence, and what it means to truly have self esteem.
This seminar WILL NOT “fix you.” Please do not come to my seminar hoping I will “fix you.” If you come to this seminar, come with an open mind and a willingness to make long term changes in your life. What long-term changes you will reap from this seminar are 100% up to you. I’ve done my homework, went through the trials and tribulations, and broken down, not all, but some of the most crucial inner game elements as they apply to life and dating. I have synthesized them into a seminar that can be used as a road map of work YOU can do to shorten your learning curve.
This seminar, as any seminar I teach, should be seen as a tool of mentorship. A mentor can NEVER erase the learning curve, and I in no way hope to do so. However, a mentor can and should reduce that learning curve and give you a compass pointing true North. From there it’s all about creating good habits, following the path laid before you, seeking out reference experiences, and seeking out new and greater mentors. As you can see from the guys below, when you do apply it, your daily and dating life will change dramatically.
The inner game seminar is all about showing you your blind spots. Some of which you have always been aware of, but had no idea/did not give yourself permission/did not have the leverage to change. The inner game seminar will give you awareness to certain things you may not have known were possible. I love the simple, but very deep quote, “You don’t know what you don’t know.” That quote is so very true and the exact reason we all need mentorship in different areas of our lives.
If you have always looked at life or filtered your thoughts from the same perspective, then you are missing out greatly. Having someone show you different blind spots and different perspectives can be one of the most freeing experiences of your life. I know it was and continues to be for me. For years I felt stuck in a self imposed prison I had no idea how to escape. If I would have had the mentors or the books to open the lock and show me how to walk out I would have done it. However, I had tunnel vision and saw the world as only ‘black or white.’ As a result, I couldn’t get out of my own way and become the man I was meant to be.
That’s sad, because I wasted years of my life full of anger, pain, narrow minded world views, and misguided goals. Remember, a belief is only real to the person who believes it. The fact that you choose your beliefs does not make them fact. Were your beliefs born out of your own experience? Parents conditioning? Negative experience that have caused you pain? Positive reinforcement from your peer group?
Checking where the root of your beliefs are born is the first step to mastering your Inner Game. Getting rid of beliefs that don’t serve you or even hold you back and replacing those beliefs with ones that facilitate long term over short term gain is the second step. Changing your beliefs can be a tough pill to swallow, especially if they are long held. Even worse, is when we refuse to change a belief because we are so married to it we hold it as fact, deny evidence proving the contrary, and even get a secondary gain from maintaining it even when it is holding us back. That’s a tough situation that can take months or years to unwire.
I love the quote,
“We see the world, not as it is, but as we are–or, as we are conditioned to see it.” -Stephen R. Covey
Of all the quotes I have saved in a journal over the years, this one seems to hold the most truth. As your inner game improves, you instantly start to see the world in a different light, dating in a different light, and women in general in a different light. In the last few years I find it much harder to hold a grudge, accept bad behavior, feel prolonged jealousy, maintain negative thoughts, and assume most people are bad or out to get me.
The inverse is also true. When I was at my lowest point I had a hard time not screwing things up, I constantly accepted bad behavior, was painfully jealous, held decade long grudges, pushed away good friends and mentors, constantly looped negative thoughts, violently defended my belief system, and flat out looked for conflict.
Hopefully you can see how these two distinctly different world views can play out in your dating life and important relationships. You can only fake being a happy centered guy with his shit together for so long. At some point your true self will be exposed and as Mr. M says, “If there is smoke, at some point people better be able to see the fire.”
Is it time to stop faking the smoke and truly build a fire?
-Braddock
Question: How does the inner game seminar change your game?
“I have read a few reviews of the inner game seminar done by Braddock and it makes me want to save up and take it later in the year hopefully. But the reviews I have read don’t really say what has changed in their game long after the seminar. Could anyone who has taken tell how it changed their game in the months after? And also if they took a bootcamp?”
Answer: The below are responses by previous Inner Game seminar Attendants
Tigerguy,
Hey man. I took Braddock and Mr. M’s Inner Game seminar last February in NYC. The seminar is packed with useful information, and depending on where you are in your development, you will get different things out of it. However, it is also the type of seminar such that, if you take good notes, you will get things out of your notes months down the line that you didn’t even pick up on when you first attended. I also took Social Circle Mastery (highly recommended) and can say the same for that seminar.
To give you the biggest concrete example of how the seminars affected my life: over the summer, I started out in a program with 100 people my age, and we all came from different universities. It was a 2 month training program that was work-related. Applying what I learned in the inner game seminar really helped me to move along the “boyhood to manhood” continuum. I dislike using “PUA” language but since we are all familiar with it, this was a DHV in itself, which allowed me to use more effectively what I learned in the SCM seminar. Results: I knew everyone in my program by the end, people looked to me for fun (organizing social events, suggesting ideas for what to do after-hours), and (probably most important to you) I was hooking up with the hottest girl in the program for the last month of it. While I considered myself to be a social person and able to hold my own in most social interactions, I learned a lot from both seminars. And during the 2 month program, I knew what I was doing, consciously. In fact, I honestly believe that had I not taken either of these seminars, the 2 month program would have gone differently for me. I like this example because in the program everyone started out with a clean slate, ie, no one knew each other so everyone started out at level 0. So I think it is sort of like saying “holding all else constant, these seminars really do work.”
A word of advice though, the stuff you learn is really powerful and effective, but don’t put the cart before the horse. Understand that it is not a “magic bullet” or shortcut, and it requires that you have goals and a life outside of pickup. In fact, one of the things that I enjoyed most about the February Inner Game seminar was that they really stressed the fact that this whole process is about developing into your best self, ie, having goals, not seeking validation from others, being assertive (among other ideas). They call the point when you reach your best self “going supernova,” and they really gave us the tools to do that in Inner Game. SCM was like another layer to add when you have your inner game at a reasonable level. If you’ve read Stephen Covey’s the 7 habits, Inner Game is sort of like the “Private Victory” and SCM is sort of like the “Public Victory.”
Hope that helps you to make your decision.”
Mark W,
“I was also at the seminar with Braddock and MrM in New York last Feb. At the time, I had not taken a bootcamp but have since then.
When you go, make sure you take as much notes as possible. I did and have been able to refer back to them constantly. The material in the inner game seminar is unlike anything you have come across before. It draws from elements of self help, dating science and neuroscience. But the biggest and best element is the personal experience which MrM and Braddock inject to the seminar. This makes it so much more realistic and applicable. A book would not be able to communicate this in the same way.
In terms of what I got out of it at the time, was an understanding of how people fundamentally interact, how guys/girls brains work, various alpha male traits and how to assert boundaries. These were all great to learn and use in social situations but it also came into play at work and with my family.
My life has changed a lot since then. Having had time to try everything out, I can honestly say it was the most worthwhile seminar/product in this whole genre. I still refer back to my notes from here more than any other set of notes I have. The boundary function topic alone is worth the price of the seminar. To have that explained in such a way was like a chain reaction of epiphanies!
It really is hard to explain just how good this seminar is. I’ve never heard anyone say a bad word about it and you get a full refund if you don’t like it – so nothing to loose really.
Hope this helps.”
Whim,
“I took the seminar at the Superconference in Vegas this year.
Echoing what Tiger & Mark have said, it is an incredible seminar. When most people in the Community think of “inner game” they think of woo-woo new-agey exercises and “learning to appreciate” and all that jazz.
Inner Game as taught by Braddock & Mr M is *completely* different. It’s about practical, very conscious tools and structures that you can apply continuously throughout your life.
It’s basically teaching you the transition between being a boy and being a man. It’s all the stuff that your dad would have taught you if you grew up in an agrarian or feudal society. Beyond that, it teaches you character traits that Braddock and Mr M have modelled from people who are at the top of their game in life – if you’ve ever what it is that separates that top 1% of the population (in terms of women, money, success) from the rest, the seminar fills in that gap.
- Whim
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TSB Magazine's Top 10 Dating Coaches of The Year
Bobby Rio at TSB Magazine just posted a “Top 10 Dating Coaches of 2009″ list.
Check it out: “TSB’s Top 10 Dating Coaches of 2009″
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Flirting With Women: Push/Pull Gone Wrong
I think you’ve been reading to much of David Deangelo’s old “cocky funny” stuff. I love that ebook, but he never really explains the other side of how this works and he never so much as flirts with how to balance it out. Almost everything you read in that book is about how to “push.”
To be good at flirting with women you must master both sides of the coin. Learning how to properly pull is at least as important as knowing how to push properly. You don’t always need to push, especially in situations like the above. Often times it is more than fine, if not necessary, to vibe with them first with several pulls or neutral comments in a row. By doing this, you are actually setting the table for multiple teases “pushes” later.
Remember, when people do not know you well, they have to take everything at face value. If you push far to hard early in the interaction, she is not going to assume, “I’ll bet he’s just a playful guy and he really is interested in getting to know me.” No, she will just take the nature of your interaction as, “Wow, I wanted to get to know this guy, he is really abrasive, I was trying to be nice, and he is saying rude shit without even trying to pull me back into the conversation to let me know he was joking or trying to make me feel like he wants to be apart of this conversation. What a dick.“
I know this can be confusing, because you hear some of your natural buddies or read some of these field reports where dating coaches are saying some really crazy stuff to women. What you aren’t noticing or they aren’t doing a very good job of conveying, is that they build up to that. Now, they may build up to it in under 30 seconds or it may take weeks before they are flirting with the woman like that, but they are in fact building up to that by pulling and vibing at intermittent variables to keep the woman from feeling prolonged negative emotions.
To facilitate this, especially in the scenario above where she approached you first, you may want to build her up with 3 or 4 light compliments or light rapport questions/statements, followed by a light tease as she feels more comfortable with you. Once you get her laughing or playing along with your teases, this is the green light you’ve been waiting for. Now you slowly amp up the teasing, while still mixing in some rapport and vibing, until you can bust on her pretty hard and she is cool with that. Now simply wash rinse repeat. Just because she is cool with you busting on her harder, does that mean you need always escalate to that next level right away? NO!! To flirt with women properly you need to work up and down the gradient. Once she is cool with you busting on her hard, take a mental not of that, but work back down the ladder teasing her on lighter things, vibe and build more rapport, then bust on her hard again.
Follow this rule especially in situations where she took the risk of approaching you. She must have thought you were attractive and that took some balls on her part to flirt with you, then you essentially told her to stick it up her ass 
. I know you were just playing, but it’s obvious that she didn’t.
I would like you to re read the above interaction that you had with her and this time I would like you to pretend a beautiful 10 is saying what you said and I want you to pretend you are the girl who reached out trying to flirt with this hot stranger. Now, can you see how bad that would feel? I would think she was bombing me if a girl talked to me like that. I would want to think she was teasing, but it would be hard for me not to feel like she was tooling my ass.
Just remember to build up to your teasing and even when you get them playing along, you need to cycle it between teasing, vibing, and rapport building. This is ESPECIALLY true if the woman put her guard down and came onto you. In this case reward her with at least some light rapport before amping up the hard core teasing. Early in an interaction keep the teasing general and as you get to know each other/she is receptive/she is comfortable, start getting more specific.
Don’t sweat this. Anyone who is good at flirting with women has made this exact mistake tons of times. I personally have made this exact mistake hundreds of times and still occasionally mess things up with women by pushing to hard. Oh well, this is how you learn. If you want to make an omelet, you’re going to have to crack some eggs.
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